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would you name your baby a name you couldn't stand?

post #1 of 139
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the obvious answer is hell no.. of course you wouldn't. but what if your partner was absolutely adamant and in love with the name? dp wants to name our baby this hideous name and hasn't dropped it, eventhough i've told him no way a million times. he even went as far as writing me a letter today explaining the reasons why he loves this name so much and why he really wants our child to be named this name. i told him that we could use it as a middle name.. to compromise.. but this isnt good enough for him. he wants it to be the child's FIRST name. im trying as hard as i can to come around to the name, but ugh... it just isn't happening.

what would you do?

oh.. and the name is Tecumseh (pronounced, tuh-cum-suh)
ugh.. i cringe just typing it
post #2 of 139
I wouldn't and definitely not a name that could be SO easily twisted and made fun of.
post #3 of 139
No, I wouldn't budge - and I think your DH is being unreasonable expecting you to accept it. I think it's important to find a name you both love - or at least one you both can tolerate. You'd regret using it, and that's not fair to you or the baby.
post #4 of 139
I think a child with that name would be teased a lot.

If your partner can't agree to have it in the middle name slot, just remember that the mama is usually the one to fill out the birth certificate.
post #5 of 139
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Originally Posted by starbyfar7 View Post
the obvious answer is hell no.. of course you wouldn't. but what if your partner was absolutely adamant and in love with the name? dp wants to name our baby this hideous name and hasn't dropped it, eventhough i've told him no way a million times. he even went as far as writing me a letter today explaining the reasons why he loves this name so much and why he really wants our child to be named this name. i told him that we could use it as a middle name.. to compromise.. but this isnt good enough for him. he wants it to be the child's FIRST name. im trying as hard as i can to come around to the name, but ugh... it just isn't happening.

what would you do?

oh.. and the name is Tecumseh (pronounced, tuh-cum-suh)
ugh.. i cringe just typing it
uhm. no.
post #6 of 139
I wouldn't budge either...my DH has vetoed many names that I like and I feel that I need to respect his opinion, as should he with a name I dislike. If it's a name that you will really never come to like, then you simply shouldn't use it.
post #7 of 139
Nah. I think veto power is important with both parents
post #8 of 139
I think it's fair to compromise with a name that you truly HATE and put it in the middle. That's more than fair considering how much you don't like the name.
post #9 of 139
Not at all! That's a name that later in life could really have some nasty jokes about, too.

DH right now keeps saying he likes "Thorstin" for a boy. I'm not so sure. First of all, it's gonna be hell on a young child to pronounce the "TH" sound, and the rest I'm not keen on either. I suggested "Tristan" similar, a bit less out there (hey, we like unique names, but within reason) and easier to say for the child in younger years.

Here's hoping everyone is right and this is our girl. We won't have to worry about the name then xD We've got the perfect girl name. Saved it since DS wasn't one, lol.
post #10 of 139
For me it would depend on the reason he wanted it. If he liked it because he is a huge jokster and is just being weenie, no, but if it was the last name of someone who meant the world to him (i.e. Grandmother, friend who saved his life, etc.) I would budge and just come up with a nice nickname.
post #11 of 139
Ugh, hell no. Do your kid a favor and don't back down! I think middle name is a GENEROUS compromise.
post #12 of 139
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Ugh, hell no. Do your kid a favor and don't back down! I think middle name is a GENEROUS compromise.
My thoughts exactly.
post #13 of 139
If it was a name that was fairly common and not something that could cause the child great pain in later years but I just didn't like it- I might consider giving in and letting dp name the child his way.

With the name you mentioned- h*ll no!
post #14 of 139
It doesn't seem he's being very respectful of your feelings.
post #15 of 139
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Originally Posted by Serenyd View Post
Ugh, hell no. Do your kid a favor and don't back down! I think middle name is a GENEROUS compromise.
I agree completely. No one should have a child with a name they can't stand. Hated names are always thrown out here.
post #16 of 139
I'm in a similar boat. DH wants to name a child after his great grandfather, Merle. I personally cannot stand the name. I've dodged the bullet twice, but I dread having a third boy because I really don't like the name, and I feel guilty denying him because his great grandfather was a really good man who he was really close to, and I've named our two oldest after my grandfather and father. I figure when the time comes I'll probably just come up with a nickname for him so I don't have to say the name.
post #17 of 139
I think you both made the baby and it is only fair that you both agree on a name regardless of if it is a name your child will be made fun of or not.

I think you are being really accommodating by saying it is okay for a middle name.
post #18 of 139
i hope i don't offend somebody by saying that might be THE worst name i've ever heard...and oh the name-calling.



don't back down! write him a letter telling him why you hate it so much...

why does he like it??
post #19 of 139
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Originally Posted by KempsMama View Post
I'm in a similar boat. DH wants to name a child after his great grandfather, Merle. I personally cannot stand the name. I've dodged the bullet twice, but I dread having a third boy because I really don't like the name, and I feel guilty denying him because his great grandfather was a really good man who he was really close to, and I've named our two oldest after my grandfather and father. I figure when the time comes I'll probably just come up with a nickname for him so I don't have to say the name.
Honestly, I think Merle is fine. Old fashioned is trendy now. Maybe offer it to your dh as a middle name at least.
post #20 of 139
This old man I know named Buffer is a John Wayne super fan. He is also a native american junkie (I say this because he has no heritage at all, he just really identifies with them and collects stuff), like with his walls covered in pictures, replicas, and things JW has signed. Its so weird.

His weiner dog is named Tecumseh.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tecumseh
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