I'm so glad I found this thread! It's always a relief to check in with you guys and find out I'm not alone in all the stuff I'm going through. Gus was born a little over a week ago and I can't believe how different things are this time. My memories of the postpartum period with DD are all colored with the difficulty of recovering from the 2nd degree tears I had - she was born at the beginning of November and at Thanksgiving I was still having trouble sitting on a hard chair. This time the perineal recovery has been much, much easer - I can't believe how much better it is, despite a tricky 1st degree tear that was heading up towards the clitoris (I was kind of freaking out when they were stitching it up, but it's not bothering me at all)! The two things I am struggling with most are engorgement - oh my god, I have so much milk and it is so painful almost all the time - and adjustment to being a parent of 2.
The engorgement. I have so much milk. Gus's nursing habits are pretty good - he was 1 oz heavier than his birth weight at his 5 day checkup. I don't think I have a powerful letdown - it doesn't spray, but it does drip copiously. Poor little Gus is overwhelmed by it and pops on and off the boob unless he is really really hungry, so he and I am pretty much soaked at all times, particularly at night. I have been waking him up to try to get him to nurse because my boobs hurt so much I can't sleep. Last night I wore a nursing bra to bed, which I HATE, but otherwise I was going through several shirts in a night - and I just don't have that many shirts that fit these days. I have been pumping just a little bit at the times when I was in so much pain and Gus was too sleepy to eat. Trying to limit the pumping in order to avoid even more engorgement, but it is also tempting to get my freezer stash going.
Parent of 2 - DD is 3 and her reaction to having a new baby seems to be bouncing off the walls at all times and being very whiny and demanding. She doesn't seem to have any resentment towards him, but she wants to touch him all the time and her touches, although well meant, are not particularly gentle. I feel horrible protecting him from her because she gets fairly upset when I say she can't do something. The other night she said to DH "being a big sister is hard - I can't do ANYTHING." But then again she still lights up when she sees Gus and still wants to touch him all the time, so luckily she doesn't resent him. I'm just having a hard time dealing with her enthusiasm since I sort of want to just have a peaceful and quiet time with my newborn. We have been sending her to daycare as usual even through DH and I are both off work right now, for her sanity and for ours. I am a little scared of being alone with her and Gus and being able to handle them both on my own. That sounds so ridiculous when so many of you have 3 or 4 at home all the time!
Other physical complaints - relieved to hear others are still having weird hip/spd pain. My tailbone hurts. Gus came out pretty quickly so maybe he bruised it? Also the SPD is not gone. I tried doing a postpartum yoga DVD yesterday and the part where you lift one leg and then the other was not pleasant. I also have a really weird pain in my abdomen when I lean back, like when I wash my hair in the shower. It feels like an abdominal muscle thing. Oh, and lochia - it varies so much day to day in amount and color, even when I haven't done much. I am so tired of taking it easy!
Yesterday I tried on a couple pairs of my "big" pants, the ones that are normally too big for me that I wore during the first 12 weeks or so of pregnancy. Ha! I couldn't get them over my butt. The giant nursing boobs are so deceptive, they actually make my 1 week postpartum body look somewhat proportional. It is so sad that when I stop nursing they will be tiny flabby sacks again.
Can I tell you how much I love not being pregnant though? It is so nice to be able to reach my feet and not pee every 15 minutes! I had one beautiful night of sleeping on my stomach before the boob issues began.