My circles of friends and family generally don't do showers for subsequent babies, so I haven't set up a registry since my second (dh's first) baby. But I am relatively new (about a year) to a group that put together a basket of baby items for a woman who had her 7th child a few months ago. It was a very nice gesture, but I'm a little nervous about the possibility that they may do the same thing for me, considering the majority of the items were things I don't actually use.
I've been able to work in the fact that we use cloth diapers to a couple of one-on-one conversations, hoping nobody goes out and buys disposables, but it isn't easy to delve into topics like bottles, pacifiers, onesies (okay, those I just don't like, lol), etc.
Many of these wonderful ladies are strapped for cash, and I really don't want to see them stretch themselves, particularly around the holidays, for things I really don't need.
Would it be considered rude if I were to catch one or two of the "key" people and tell them that, while I loved what they did for so-and-so, I really hope they don't feel as though they need to do the same for me? I mean, we're all very friendly, but it isn't quite the same as going up to a BFF and saying "Look, I'd rather you not do this."
While I could easily donate things, I'd much rather see everyone save their money.
Thoughts?
I've been able to work in the fact that we use cloth diapers to a couple of one-on-one conversations, hoping nobody goes out and buys disposables, but it isn't easy to delve into topics like bottles, pacifiers, onesies (okay, those I just don't like, lol), etc.
Many of these wonderful ladies are strapped for cash, and I really don't want to see them stretch themselves, particularly around the holidays, for things I really don't need.
Would it be considered rude if I were to catch one or two of the "key" people and tell them that, while I loved what they did for so-and-so, I really hope they don't feel as though they need to do the same for me? I mean, we're all very friendly, but it isn't quite the same as going up to a BFF and saying "Look, I'd rather you not do this."
While I could easily donate things, I'd much rather see everyone save their money.
Thoughts?
Honestly, I think there's really no response to a gift-- even an unwanted one-- besides a gracious "thank you." If you can find a kind and loving way to say "no thank you" before they do it, that's great, but if not, I think you just smile and accept the gift and pass it on. Says the lady with-- no joke-- 6 cases of newborn diapers in her front closet, LOL!
