How do I disipline child with PDD(almost 3) when time outs don't work?

[davidsmom184]

I've noticed that time outs don't really work for DS. Either he just slips into his world, or continues with his tantrum, if he's in the middle of one. Should I just let him be? Or are there other techniques? Any books that would help me?

[ssh]

Here's some info on discipline for a child with PDD http://oreilly.com/medical/autism/ne...tml#Discipline . The article seems to be saying positive discipline works better. Also the article specifically has a section on time-outs.

[davidsmom184]

Thx!

[SpottedFoxx]

My son doesn't have PDD but when time outs failed, I found that giving choices works sooo much better. If my son is having a tantrum, I allow him to have it but he has to do it in his room so I don't have to deal with it. When it starts I tell him - he can get himself under control or he can continue to carry on in his room. If he continues, I just say "okay, I see you want to continue, your choice, but I need you to continue this in your room please" and carry him up and close the door. I've gotten better at it so usually I see it coming and offer up more positive choices before he has a chance to melt.

Kind of a modified "Parenting with Love & Logic"

[Logan's Mom]

Originally Posted by ssh

Here's some info on discipline for a child with PDD http://oreilly.com/medical/autism/ne...tml#Discipline . The article seems to be saying positive discipline works better. Also the article specifically has a section on time-outs.

Thanks.

[Linda on the move]

I don't think that disciplining for tantrums makes sense for any child.

For my DD on the spectrum, figuring out her sensory stuff was the key to figuring out her behavoir. Most of her meltdowns were related to sensory overload. So my advice on discpline is to read The Out of Sync Child, which doesn't say a thing about discipline!

[heatherdeg]

Yeah... hard to discipline for tantrums. We had a really hard time disciplining our PDD child until I read the Positive Discipline series and it was a whole 'nother ballgame. In fact, I just ordered the next age range up to refresh my skills.

[Mittsy]

For dd(5), who probably has AS/HFA no official dx yet, we try to prevent anything from happening by being prepared at all times(which would require knowledge of triggers) but if that is not possible do a time-in. Usually I stay with her in time-in, it makes it less scary for her, we play soothing music and I rub her back or try to hold her while she gets it out of her system. Does your ds have a lovie? DD has a very special doggy that is extremely helpful to have on hand when a tantrum is inevitable.

Good luck!

[Kristine233]

I find that timesouts haven't really worked with any children I've worked with, we use redirection and "choices" for the most part. Which as another poster said, is like a modified love and logic approach.

[davidsmom184]

Originally Posted by Linda on the move

I don't think that disciplining for tantrums makes sense for any child.

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He gets agressive when he has his tantrums. The agression is what I want to disipline.

Thanks to everyone for their advice