Spirited Babies Group - November

[P.J.]

Welcome to the Spirited Babies Group!

Since it hadn't yet been done and I wanted to make a post, I figured I'd make the new thread.

This is the place to come if you have a high needs / spirited baby. Here is a list of the 12 features of a high needs baby. My son Max has 8 of the 12, so I say he's 75% high needs .


We are:
Mrs.T (Raina) mom to Kevin, born 4-7-10
momto4plus4 (Sara) mom to Jeremiah, born 4-5-10
PJ (PJ) mom to Max born May 24th, 2010
LeaPea (Lea) mom to Luna born June 12, 2010, at 4:10 am!
sosurreal09 (Kami) mom to Aniela (pronounced like ahnyella) born 9-30-09
Liz.Furtado-mom to Maxwell, born April 5, 2010
yippiehippie- mom to Jack, born April 7, 2010
Xavismom (Melissa)- mom to Xavian, born November 24, 2009

JBNS (Jennifer)- mom to Ben, born April (?) 2010

There were several new posters last month who didn't give any further information. If you're new to the group and would like to introduce yourself, please let us know your name (if you're comfortable sharing that), your baby's name and birthday and I'll add you to the list.

Welcome all!!

Edited by P.J. - 11/16/10 at 3:01am

[P.J.]

So, now that that's taken care of: How's everybody doing?

We got a crib yesterday -it's in our bedroom waiting to be set up. Max is so mobile now and I started worrying he'd fall off the bed after a nap, so we got the crib. I'm not sure if it's going to work transitioning him from the bed to the crib for naps because I nurse him down and when he wakes up befre the nap's over I can just lie down next to him and nurse him back to sleep. Can't do that in a crib! So I'm simultaneously using the No-Cry Nap Solution method to help him fall asleep without the breast. That could take awhile though, so we'll see what happens. Have any of you had luck transitioning form the bed to a crib?

[JBNS]

Hi 

My name is Jennifer and my son's name is Ben. We live in Toronto Canada. Ben is fun loving and busy 7 and half months old baby. I would describe him as either really happy or really fussy! He can't sit still for a moment and wants to grab everything and put in his mouth. He is not crawling yet and will probably be happier when he does, although he might destroy our house when it happens. I am happy to find other moms with spirited babies. It seems sometimes I am surrounded with mom's with easy babies and I find I can't relate to them sometimes. I look forward to chatting with our mom's with spirited moms!

[momto4plus4]

I've only been able to get Jeremiah to sleep in a crib maybe 5 times. And, that was before his first 2 teeth came in. Recently, I can barely get him to sleep 2 hrs and most nights he's attached to the boob all night.

Today, I'm feeling down. I've got a lot going on: bankruptcy (hearing in 2 wks), separation since JR was 11 wks old, foreclosure, working over 40 hrs/wk with daycare kids, the youngest of which is 14 months. Add Jeremiah on top of it, I feel like some days I'm just barely getting by. He's had several days recently of hours of screaming again. Found out his colon was swollen from constipation. It seems he's either one extreme or the other, both with his tummy & his personality. Finally got him poo'ing but he's still fussy. Up Sat til 2am, up Sunday til 11:30. Been up twice already tonight. He isn't wanting to be put down for more than about 10 minutes at a time today. He fusses and fusses. It's exhausting. I get frustrated with myself that I can't get more done: dishes, laundry, vaccuuming, etc. I feel like I SHOULD be able to do all these EVERY day. But, it doesn't happen. By the time I get him in bed I'm exhausted. Plus I've got my other 3 to take care of. I don't know. The screaming is just wearing. He's not moving around either. He's finally sitting unattended but that's it. He still refuses to roll. On his tummy he just screams. On his back he just rolls to his side. Except on me. If he's sitting with me he'll flip himself over no problem.

Okay, that was a long rant. I just needed to vent to other moms who understand what a high needs baby is like. Friends, my mom, they are all really good about reassuring me but they don't have one of their own right now. And, being separated, I don't even have dh reassuring me how exhausting JR is.

Welcome Jennifer. When was your baby born? Mine was April 5. Yours must be around that time too.

[P.J.]

Oh, that's funny. I started this thread because I just wanted to see how everyone was doing and there wasn't one for this month yet, and a few days later Raina started another one (by that time this one had gone to page 2 or 3). She's the one who'd done it in the past but she hadn't made it yet at the time I started this one, so I took the liberty. Hope that was okay.

Sorry for the double thread, it could get confusing having two.

Sara: Max has also been having a string of days where he won't let me put him down. DH has been around but now has 3 days of work so I'm on my own. It sucks. I can't do anything (nak right now otherwise no way to get online). Using the carrier only helps if I'm really active, even then after awhile he gets fussy. And if I slow down for a second, watch out! Days like these try my patience and push me to the very edge of my limits. The only way for us to deal is to leave the house. Like for the entire freakin' day. Max gets so distracted by being out so it helps a lot. Even when we're out though, he gets fussy after awhile in the carrier, or in the stroller. I use a combination of both but there's just no keeping him satisfied for very long. It's really cold today but I'm about to bundle us all up and head out. Have no idea what we'll do but just walk around, just keep moving and keep Max distracted from his otherwise bad mood.

Edited by P.J. - 11/16/10 at 2:57am

[yippiehippie]

PJ, maybe you can make a post in the old one w/a link to this? I'm confused and don't check this forum often, but have the spirited babies thread sub, so I only think about it if it pops up in my email! Maybe that's why we're losing ppl?

[P.J.]

I went to do that, and then thought it might add to the confusion to have both threads floating around right next to each other. Hopefully if anyone needs it they'll see it here now.I feel a bit like an ass for making a new one when Raina had done it the first couple months. I just wanted to check in though and there was at that time none, so figured why not. Sorry for any trouble that caused. In any case November's almost over so someone can make a new one in Dec. I would say whoever feels like should, as many of us do have our hands full and I'm not sure any one wants the responsibility every month.. IDK. 

Anyway, Max is sooooo mobile, nearly crawling (still doing the army crawl though) and pulling himself up on everything. Unfortunately that makes for a lot of tumbles and head bumps, so in the last hour (he's been particularly busy climbing the laundry basket) he fell over and ended up screaming about 4 times! Our kitchen and hallway have hard tiles and it worries me that he could crack his head if he fell over directly, so I'm trying my best to keep an eye on him and make sure he does his pulling up on carpeted areas. Also, we REALLY need to babyproof and it is so much work! In the meantime Max cannot be left alone at all really, he's into everything! Intense times around here.

[yippiehippie]

Originally Posted by P.J. 

Anyway, Max is sooooo mobile, nearly crawling (still doing the army crawl though) and pulling himself up on everything. Unfortunately that makes for a lot of tumbles and head bumps, so in the last hour (he's been particularly busy climbing the laundry basket) he fell over and ended up screaming about 4 times! Our kitchen and hallway have hard tiles and it worries me that he could crack his head if he fell over directly, so I'm trying my best to keep an eye on him and make sure he does his pulling up on carpeted areas. Also, we REALLY need to babyproof and it is so much work! In the meantime Max cannot be left alone at all really, he's into everything! Intense times around here.

Sounds just like Jack. He is finally crawling, but still just wants to pull to stand on EVERYTHING (he esp. likes the laundry basket, too). He is finally figuring out that he can just gently sit instead of standing until he falls. I try to laugh whenever he falls so he only cries when he really is hurt. Jack also just can't be left alone for a second-it's so exhausting! He pulled a TV on top of himself the other day! We accidentally left the cord pluged in to a tube TV that's on a shelf and he pulled the cord and it fell on his head! He's OK, but what a scare...

[LeaPea]

Is there a December thread yet??

[yippiehippie]

I took the liberty of starting a winter thread

http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1284046/winter-spirited-babies-group#post_16099143 

Join me!!