I don't remember being asked with my first 2, so I was kinda shocked as I continued to be asked if we were "planning" #3. Not really offended, but really didn't even know how to answer! We're wanting to have 5(ish?) children (we'll see how we feel about more as they come), and up to this point we haven't felt the need to use any form of birth control, but NO, we weren't exactly PLANNING #3 at the time we got pregnant (even though 2 & 3 will be 2 yrs apart- almost to the day).
So I mean how do you answer someone about that??? "Well, if you really want to know about our sex life, this is what's happened over the last year......" ????
I don't know.... It felt pretty strange when it wasn't a close friend or family member. Of course, many of our close friends and family weren't even as surprised as I was, since they all know we'd like to have a big family. They would just say "Yeah, I guess it's been long enough for you to have another one."
Although, I must admit, I'm pretty sure I've asked at least 3 of my close friends this question before. But I don't think it came across as offensive to any of them, since it is asked in the sense of "how do you feel about this?" I would NEVER ask a stranger though. That is absolutely weird.