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Weaning my oldest this weekend. Feeling ready, but sad.

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Most people in real life have been saying "it's about time", so I guess I just wanted to come on here and "talk" to people who get it. Who understand that, though I feel ready, I also feel quite sad.

I dry nursed through pregnancy and have tandem nursed the two of them for almost a year. I've been finding I don't enjoy nursing as much since nursing in pregnancy and it's at the point where I'm worried my irritation nursing my daughter is having an effect on my nursing relationship with my 11 month old.

So after a lot of thought I've decided I really need to wean my daughter. I have been cutting down her nursing sessions over the last few months. This past week I've cut it down to one breast for two songs before bed. She has always been a major comfort nurser, so I know this might be a tough week.

I'm planning on getting her a new book to read before bed and taking her out for lunch without her brother or daddy on Sunday (something we never do).

Wish me luck.
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I'm also feeling a little guilt as my original "plan" was to CLW or at least nurse until 3... but I really can't do it anymore. I want to remember nursing her as loving and enjoyable, not irritating and wanting her off me.
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Congratulations on the plan. I hope it all goes smoothly and peacefully and that you and your littler one can enjoy each other again.

While I sometimes *think* that CLW might be best I also think that we give our kids so much encouragement on other things why not weaning too? I mean, I encourage my 3 year old twins to walk on their own even though they really don't want to. If I CLW my kids on walking I think I'd still be carrying my lazy 10year old everywhere! (I hope this isn't against the 'rules' of mdc, not trying to argue CLW, just giving my feelings.)

I've felt ambivalence about weaning for all my children (dk#1 @2.5 years just a few weeks before his sis was born, dk#2 @2.5 years while undergoing IVF and now cutting back on nursing the twins at 3y4m, hoping to be done by the end of the year) but have never looked back after wards and said "oh, that was a mistake, we should have kept nursing."

Hang in there and enjoy the extra snuggles that you are sure to both give and get.
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It has gone better then I expected it would! I told her we could buy a bedtime book to read instead of nursing and she asked for "puff the magic dragon" I realized as I was reading it last night, that it is about growing up... how fitting. She didn't ask to nurse and went to sleep reading her book and listening to the "puff the magic dragon" CD that came with it. Today we are heading out for a mommy and daughter lunch.

I nursed her 2years and 9 months

I feel good about giving her that start, and seeing how easy the weaning was, I think she may have been ready too.

Thank you for your kind words mumm!
post #5 of 7
I'm so happy that you had such a happy outcome! I will be trying to wean my DS (3.5yo) while we are travelling next week (to BC, by the way ) I'm hoping the change of environment/routine will be enough to make it a relatively easy transition. I've already told him we aren't going to have nursies at Nana's because she doesn't have a nursie chair (although he suggested we just buy one for her !) But he seems okay with that, so we'll see how it goes. I'm worried that I will get emotional about it, but I'm trying to remember that it's time to move on to other things and we've shared a wonderful and lengthy BFing relationship. Fingers crossed it goes as smoothly for me as it did for you!
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It has gone better then I expected it would! I told her we could buy a bedtime book to read instead of nursing and she asked for "puff the magic dragon" I realized as I was reading it last night, that it is about growing up... how fitting. She didn't ask to nurse and went to sleep reading her book and listening to the "puff the magic dragon" CD that came with it. Today we are heading out for a mommy and daughter lunch.

I nursed her 2years and 9 months

I feel good about giving her that start, and seeing how easy the weaning was, I think she may have been ready too.

Thank you for your kind words mumm!
I'd have to agree that if it went that easily, she was definately ready! I'm glad to hear that you are celebrating the ending of this big part of your relationship together. I always think of CLW as an ideal, but like any ideal not everyone is going to meet it. If you can MLW respectfully when they child is 2+ there is certainly nothing to criticize, IMO!
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My son is 2 days older than your girl, so I'm sure you've got a kid who can handle this just fine. You're being a good mama to create a family life with a mother who has less irritation! I'm right behind you.
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