My sister is a hairdresser. A women comes in to her shop and begins to bf her infant without trying to cover. No one in the shop says anything until the women leaves but they all feel the same, uncomfortable and disgusted (my sister's discription).
My sister told me that when a women just whips out her breast to feed her child that it is obnoxious. No one wants to see a mother's breast. She says that a mother should cover up. I pointed out to her that somewhere between 5-7 months my ds started to pull the blanket off his head. She said that I wasn't nasty about it showing everyone what I have. I pointed out to her that I have small breasts and therefore my shirt pretty much covers me up without trying and that a mother with big DD's or larger could not conceal her breasts as easily.
I tried to explain to her that it is not that she is trying to expose herself to gain sexual attention. She is simply trying to feed her child. My sister says a large breasted women who can not cover up needs to go to her car or stay at home and nurse because no one wants to see her breasts. It is the right of other people to not feel uncomfortable in a public place.
I wonder if this is how most of our society veiws NIP? What do you think? Is it acceptable to NIP as long as you are trying to be discreet? Are big breasted women often seen as more sexual or even promiscuous (sorry I have NO idea how to spell that one!) Is it accaptable to nurse a toddler in a public place?
I don't NIP often because the occasion just dosen't arise so much anymore at his age but I have had comments like "Wow! That is a REALLY big baby!" He's a year and a half and still pretty bald. I think people assume he's much younger.
My sister told me that when a women just whips out her breast to feed her child that it is obnoxious. No one wants to see a mother's breast. She says that a mother should cover up. I pointed out to her that somewhere between 5-7 months my ds started to pull the blanket off his head. She said that I wasn't nasty about it showing everyone what I have. I pointed out to her that I have small breasts and therefore my shirt pretty much covers me up without trying and that a mother with big DD's or larger could not conceal her breasts as easily.
I tried to explain to her that it is not that she is trying to expose herself to gain sexual attention. She is simply trying to feed her child. My sister says a large breasted women who can not cover up needs to go to her car or stay at home and nurse because no one wants to see her breasts. It is the right of other people to not feel uncomfortable in a public place.
I wonder if this is how most of our society veiws NIP? What do you think? Is it acceptable to NIP as long as you are trying to be discreet? Are big breasted women often seen as more sexual or even promiscuous (sorry I have NO idea how to spell that one!) Is it accaptable to nurse a toddler in a public place?
I don't NIP often because the occasion just dosen't arise so much anymore at his age but I have had comments like "Wow! That is a REALLY big baby!" He's a year and a half and still pretty bald. I think people assume he's much younger.
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She made me really think about why I was uncomfortable when all the woman was doing was feeding her baby.
if they start reaching for my baby in her snugli or in her carseat, i say, "no touching please." and that usually does it. but if they are insistant, i get really bitchy, lol.
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