Originally Posted by DeannaRussell82
I personally don't want to circumcise my son (I'm only 6-7 weeks pregnant, but feel I'm pregnant with a boy) even if we are having a girl we plan on more so eventually we'll get another boy. My oldest is circumcised with no complications. However, I don't want to circumcise anymore of my sons. But here is where my problem lies. My husband's side of the family has diabetes horribly bad. His grandpa has died from it, just about every other person in his family has diabetes. His dad has it, and everyone gets it around age 40 or so. (Keep in mind my husband is 100% for circumcision, I am not)
My grandfather 7 years ago found out he had diabetes, he was uncircumcised, and the foreskin started to shrink and he had to go get circumcised late in life which caused him all kinds of complications, infections, it was bad. :( So while I don't want to because I just feel it is better for my child. There is that "what if" he gets diabetes and has complications like my grandfather has? I have had 2 grandfathers have the same problems. (sigh)
My husband thinks we need to for religious reasons, but I've done all kinds of research and OUR version of circumcision is NOT like the bibles. Besides, we aren't that religious anyways, we don't even go to church, I think he is still thinking "old" school ways. Or something. I just want to do what is right by our future sons.
My thought on this is what if you and the woman in your family carried the breast cancer gene. Would you consider removing your dd's breast buds because her odds of getting breast cancer are higher? For me it is a no brainer there is no way I would remove them just as there is no way I would circ my ds because something "might" happen later on. The only difference in the two is how they are viewed here in the USA circ is viewed as normal while the radical mastectomy is not for an infant. I hope that you can trust in nature and leave your ds the way nature meant for him to be :)
Also it could be that your grandfathers issues steamed from improper care as a child. Back then forced retraction and scrubbing clean was the way it was done. Do you know if they washed with soap? Doing that can and does cause issues for intact men especially those with underlying health issues. What I am saying is the way they where raised probably played a bigger roll than the diabetes in the long run.
We cant discuss religion here on the board but I can PM you with more information on that if you want it.
Honestly if I had known for a fact while pg with ds that he would grow up to have an issue that required circ I still wouldnt circ him. Why because bottom line it isnt my body to modify. He deserves to be intact for however long before having to live with having less.
Edited by MCatLvrMom2A&X - 11/16/10 at 3:20pm