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post #21 of 37
We had an OBGYN for the first 20 weeks last pregnancy and they wanted tests and ultrasounds at every visit. We transferred to a midwife and had nothing for the rest of the pregnancy. It was such a relief!
This time around we are going straight with a HB midwife. Although we wholeheartedly believe in the low tech approach, I have had such a hard time trusting that there is a live baby in there. My gut feeling that something was wrong just grew and grew and finally last week we asked for a referral for an US. Seeing that little baby with a strong heartbeat and growing just fine really helped me relax and believe in this pregnancy. Now I feel much more confident with only the four weekly midwife checks with the doppler and/or fetoscope.
It is just so hard at the beginning when you can't 'feel' anything there. (ignoring the RLP, nausea, exhaustion etc)
post #22 of 37

I don't necessarily consider myself low tech but since I have yet to have an appointment I haven't heard or seen the baby. This stage of pregnancy - the last few weeks of the 1st trimester and before the 1st appointment - can be very trying for me. I've felt sick for a long while, have heard a rumor that I'm pregnant but have nothing tangible to go on. I'll feel so relieved to hear a heartbeat and be able to begin the process of connecting with my baby and falling in love. 

post #23 of 37

I haven't seen or heard the baby yet but that's because I haven't had an appointment yet.  I didn't do u/s last time but I did do a doppler at one appointment just to confirm the heartbeat.  I don't know what I'm doing this time.  I just haven't decided yet.

post #24 of 37

I have had one appointment to pee on a stick at 4 weeks, haven't seen doc since. There is absolutely no point in my opinion. I really do have a whatever will be will be attitude towards pregnancy. I am 8.5 weeks now and will probably have a prenatal appointment around 12 weeks. I won't hear baby until the appointment after that around 16 weeks. I will have an u/s at 19 weeks to check for birth deformities and thats it. No tests, no amnio, nothing. I think we are going to pay for a private u/s around 24 weeks for gender identification.

post #25 of 37

So far nothing here either.  I'll also be 10 weeks tomorrow and am meeting with a midwife for the first time.  If she offers the doppler I'm not sure what I'll say...

post #26 of 37

I've not heard anything yet either.  I've listened 3 times with the doppler I have at home, but I'm only 8 weeks so am not overly surprised that I'm not hearing anything yet.  Still undecided regarding any US.  Haven't been to the doc yet either.  Meh, we'll get there eventually.  

post #27 of 37

i've read in various places the advice to avoid ultrasound if possible since we still aren't sure of the long term effects. so that's what i'm doing. this is my first pregnancy and i think it would be really great to hear the heartbeat, but, i can be patient and wait until the fetoscope picks it up. i've been so sick and swollen feeling that i'm pretty sure something must be going on in there!

post #28 of 37

Me!  Me, me, me, me!  I have seen and heard nothing!
 

We were so hands off with my daughter.  We had no ultrasounds and minimal dopplar use (first few appointments and during labor).  But I am not sure we are going to end up doing with this pregnancy.  At least it is "easier" and cheaper to just wait things out.  I am praying that I will hear a heartbeat on dopplar at 11w5d.  Then I will be able to really relax.  The 20 week ultrasound will be another quesion that we'll answer down the road.  I wish I was a more peaceful second time Mama, but ignorance is bliss!  I really think I need to get off these forums for a while!

post #29 of 37

Nothing yet either. I've only had the initial meeting with the midwife, then a huge gap. It feels kinda weird! I'll be seeing her again when I'm 10 weeks 5 days... would a fetoscope pick up a heartbeat then? I'd rather not use a doppler if possible. I've started showing, so I'm not that worried about the baby orngtongue.gif , but it does feel kind of strange not "knowing". I had a dating scan with DD at 6 weeks, but I was sure of my dates this time, so nuthin'.

post #30 of 37

No midwife appointment yet (except the "do we want to work together" interview). Won't see her until 11w 5d and we hope to hear a heartbeat w/ the doppler then. I am really eager to hear the wee one so I can relax a little. I love working w/ low-tech midwives, and yet, I admit that if one of them said to me around 8 weeks, "Go get an early ultrasound so we can see the heartbeat," I would totally do it because I'm usually such a wreck the first trimester!

post #31 of 37

Bax, what day is 11w5d for you?  Mine is Nov. 18. smile.gif

post #32 of 37
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No midwife appointment yet (except the "do we want to work together" interview). Won't see her until 11w 5d and we hope to hear a heartbeat w/ the doppler then. I am really eager to hear the wee one so I can relax a little. I love working w/ low-tech midwives, and yet, I admit that if one of them said to me around 8 weeks, "Go get an early ultrasound so we can see the heartbeat," I would totally do it because I'm usually such a wreck the first trimester!



I understand this. My doc is so hands off great and that's why I love going to him. It's literally no stress, I'd be freaked out if he wasn't around this time. During my last birth he didn't even touch me, just sat on my bed and was there if needed. Sometimes though I get a little antsy and want to know is there really a baby in there. Hello! Is anyone home? If I called him up and asked to come in I know he'd hook me up with whatever I needed but I feel like I'm (personally) being neurotic so I sit tight and wait a couple more weeks. I know it won't be very long before everything falls where it should. But lady, I sure hear you. 

post #33 of 37

I'm 8.4 weeks and I haven't seen anyone yet.  I have seen my general doctor for blood pressure meds twice, but they don't seem to be working very well.  I am pretty steady at about 146/98 even on meds.  I've been playing email tag with a midwife so hopefully we'll get to talk soon.  Everything seems so surreal.  I don't have morning sickness.  I didn't have any with my other pregnancies either, so first trimester is so nerve wracking.  Is there really somebody in there? LOL  My dh is out of town, so I am waiting on him to get back so I can see an OB.  I'd really rather not do that, but I need to get my blood pressure under control right away.  I *know* they are going to want to do an immediate ultrasound as soon as I see them.  With the blood pressure thing, I don't mind that much.  I'd rather not.  I'd rather have just the 20 week ultrasound.  We'll see. smile.gif

post #34 of 37

No ultrasound scheduled, we're going very low tech. Next appointment we should be able to hear a heartbeat through the stethoscope. :) We're not going to find out if the baby is a girl or boy until.... it's born! So many people are surprised by this, luckily for us, they are supportive of us. All natural, no tech. Fun times!

post #35 of 37

happily low tech here @ 12w3d. I've interviewed & picked out our mw but won't see her for the first appt. until sometime during the 14th week.  I'm planning to use the doppler at our first visit just for DH (he's anxious to be certain someone is in there!) and one ultrasound at 20 weeks.  the only test I'm considering is for diabetes because it runs in my family, but still undecided & leaning towards no testing.

 

my mom refused to believe I can be sure I'm pregnant without having seen "a real doctor" to tell me so lol. how out of touch does a woman have to be with her body? I just laugh because she claims not to be certain of it but that didn't stop her from telling everyone when specifically told to keep it secret. irked.gif

post #36 of 37
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my mom refused to believe I can be sure I'm pregnant without having seen "a real doctor" to tell me so lol. how out of touch does a woman have to be with her body? I just laugh because she claims not to be certain of it but that didn't stop her from telling everyone when specifically told to keep it secret. irked.gif


This just cracks me up! So funny!

post #37 of 37
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i've read in various places the advice to avoid ultrasound if possible since we still aren't sure of the long term effects. so that's what i'm doing. this is my first pregnancy and i think it would be really great to hear the heartbeat, but, i can be patient and wait until the fetoscope picks it up. i've been so sick and swollen feeling that i'm pretty sure something must be going on in there!



Same here! I already opted out of the 10 wk "dating" scan (I'm not at 10 wks yet, but I know when I ovulated, and thus see no need for a dating scan) and am unsure whether I want the doppler or the 20 wk u/s. I have been feeling pretty lousy since week 5 so something is going on, but I haven't been feeling suddenly acutely worse to make me think anything is going wrong.

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