I am six weeks pregnant and have two girls. I feel positively desperate for a boy.
Send some blue dust my way?
Oh, I love sending blue dust to families I know will keep the whole boy! You can have every last speck of mine, since our family is complete.
I had a long, woe-is-me post here ~3 years ago about how depressed I was that I would never have any more children. I loved my girls, but I remember how sad I was that I had never saved a single baby boy from circumcision. I was afraid the only way to do that was to have my own, and that was never going to happen. Then, surprise! Not only did I find myself pregnant against very long odds, but I nearly fell off the exam table when my doctor looked at the ultrasound and told me that there was no way baby #3 was another girl. My DH was totally psyched for his third daughter and was so shocked that it took him a minute to figure out what the baby was, if it wasn't a girl. LOL. Our little non-girl is now a toddler, perfectly intact and a whirlwind of activity. He's so much fun. Not only has he never had a problem related to intactness, but his foreskin is one of the most low-maintenance parts he has.
But I do agree with PuppyFluffer about the unexpected impact of having a boy when you're already vehemently anti-circ (I wrote a post about that too). I was outraged by the idea of routine circumcision before I had a son of my own, but after, it was so much worse. I hadn't thought it could get any worse. Then you look into that sweet, trusting little face and are confronted with that perfect little body every day, and suddenly it becomes VERY personal. You can see exactly what was lost, and it's all too easy to put your boy's face on those violated newborns. I'm proud that there's one more intact boy in the world now, and happy that my son has his whole body, but I've cried far more over the horror of it all in the last two years than I ever did before. If you think it's awful now, it's going to be absolutely gut-wrenching when you hold your real baby boy in your arms.
Congrats on your pregnancy! You're going to have a big impact on future generations and the way they view bodily integrity, whether you do it with an intact son and two daughters who think of a normal penis as just that . . . or with three strong, outspoken young women who know all about the harms of circumcision and may become the mothers of many intact children.
(Can't find the "yeah that" smiley, but yeah that!) It is so much more personal now that I have my baby boy. I've been surprised at the anger I feel when this topic comes up which seems to have replaced the sadness I used to have.
I always assumed I would only have girls while my pro-circ sister would only have boys. I had started to accept that this was how my world would work and I was trying to be okay with it. I also didn't have any ultrasounds while pregnant, and when our baby came out with boy parts, I was genuinely shocked. Later on, when I first changed a diaper in front of my sister, I wanted to say to her, "THIS is what you were so disgusted and frightened by that you put my nephew through unnecessary amputative SURGERY? REALLY?" It's like I'm silently daring her or anyone else to say something remotely uninformed about ds's body. I know I would stay calm and treat any comments as a teachable moment, but I do wish my brain wasn't so geared up for a fight all the time.
To the mothers of only girls, I just want to say that I think you can have a bigger effect on this anti-circ movement than you give yourself credit for. My son will be taught to see his body as normal, sure, but I certainly don't expect him to grow up and start shouting from the rooftops how awesome it is to have a foreskin. I worry he'll grow up and marry someone who does not understand the value of a foreskin, or heaven forbid may not even realize her husband is intact, and when they have a son she'll think "Why not?" when asked in the hospital if the baby will be circed. The Mario Lopez dinner conversation from the other thread is only one of many stories I've heard of wives being pro-circ despite having an intact partner. Guess who gets final say most of the time once a baby is born? It makes my heart happy when intactivists have boys, and I wish blue dust on any of you who hope to have a son, but I'm thrilled to pieces that I won't have to worry about any of your daughters growing up to be pro-circ!
Totally it's great when boys are left intact . It's like after I saw my boy it's like Why do they assume intactness is such a problem and circumcision just freaks me out .
How can people state of saying I won't make my special needs child sterile without their consent because they believe it's unethical but for some reason people think it's okay and ethical to allow their son's penis to be altered without their consent.