This is what I want to say but won't:
WTF! Why did you force my child to eat breakfast this morning just because I dropped him off 45 minutes earlier than normal! You refused to listen to him explain that he had already eaten a full breakfast at home and was not hungry. I have been through this with you before and I explained that you are never force my son to eat! What part of "never force" do you not get?! Your treatment of him this morning got him so upset that he was struggling during his regular school day. He was withdrawn and sad. He didn't want to complete his math test because he was having trouble focusing due to the emotional turmoil. I was in his classroom for 2 hours this morning volunteering and he kept needing hugs and wouldn't tell me why he was late getting to class. Right before I left he finally told me. What you did was completely against my wishes and was emotionally abusive!
Sigh...I guess I feel a little better. I really can't believe they did this to him again. He has some sort of fear (bordering on phobia) of eating school food. I don't understand it, but I am fine with just accepting it and letting him have space and time. They forced him to go and have school breakfast about a month ago and then wrote him up on disciplinary action when he refused to eat. They called me at work that day and I told them they were never to force the issue again.
This isn''t just an issue of all the kids going to the cafeteria for breakfast because of staffing issues. Kids who are dropped off after 8am do not go to the cafeteria unless they want to. I have a call into the assistant staff person. I refuse to talk to the head woman because I think she is a poor leader. She seems to have a knack for pushing my son over the edge and has never expressed any interest in understanding his SPD issues. The assistant was there last year when there was an excellent lead staff person. She has a good relationship with DS and I trust she will be able to help me navigate this issue with the head person.