New to this forum and need help

[Jewels06]

My DS just turned a year old and it seems like my PPD has gotten much worse in the last month and a half. My DH absolutely doesn't want me on meds but I know I NEED help. What can I do? I have been taking a little over 5,000 mg of fish oil, st. john's wort, B6, B Vitamin Complex. I just feel like I need medication at this point. Depression is in my family, my maternal Grandmother was Bi-Polar. I also had a long difficult labor (36 hours) at home so I know none of things adds up to anything good. I just need some direction before I go crazy.

I also want to confirm that PPD makes you feel overwhelmed b/c I just feel like I can't handle it all most of the time. My DS sleep is also not the greatest so I know that doesn't help either. Any advice would be much appreciated, TIA!

[HappyMommy2]

It seems like your DH is doing you a disservice. Do you need his permission to make positive health care decisions for yourself? If so - then go to the doctor and neglect to tell your husband! Or just do get the meds, and take them with or without his knowledge. (i.e. just go against his wishes)

At this point, it is probably a little overwhelming to have to research and convince him to get over whatever his issues with meds are. You won't be on them forever, but it seems like you feel strongly like you need them now to get you through this.

Good luck mama!!

[vanessab23]

i agree with the PP-- i have a friend who did just that...finally went and got on meds w/o telling him and a few weeks later her DH happily told something like, "you have been in a great mood lately honey!"

do what you feel like you need to do-- it sounds like you have tried many other non-med options and a year into it, are just feeling like you can barely keep your head above water. i know the feeling.

it won't be forever and it's not your fault-- OR his-- that you need more help...

hugs,

vanessa

[Jewels06]

Thanks for the support! I really would like to avoid not telling my DH and agreeing on my need for medication. He has dealt with depression before but I have tried to explain to him that it's different than just depression which I have also dealt with and he thinks we can try non-medication ideas. Which I'm up for trying but I do need something that helps soon. More than anything I just feel completely overwhelmed - I do have more symptoms than that but I want so badly to be able to enjoy my LO - he's a great baby, I know it, but I'm just too overwhelmed and tired to enjoy him. He's not a great sleeper and I know that if I had more sleep that would probably help too so my life has been consumed with his sleep which in turn has kept me in the house which doesn't help the PPD.

Sorry just needed to vent a little. I guess I should be asking what I should say to my DH to convince of my need for help. TIA!

[HappyMommy2]

Sometimes meds can get you "over the hump" so that you feel able to do the non-med things that will make you feel better (like working out, or whatever you need to refresh and revitalize yourself.)

Perhaps you could work with your hubby on a compromise.  Ask him if he is willing to support you while you try the meds for 3 months. or 6 months, or whatever. And then revisit the choice based on how it went.