Spirited Babies Group-November

[mrs.t]

This thread is for anyone who feels they have a high needs or spirited baby. If you would like to join, please give us a quick intro. All are welcome!!!

Our Members
Mrs.T-(Raina)-Mama to Kevin, born 4-7-10
momto4plus4-(Sara)-Mama to Jeremiah, born 4-5-10
PJ-(PJ)-Mama to Max born May 24th, 2010
LeaPea-(Lea)-Mama to Luna born June 12, 2010, at 4:10 am!
sosurreal09-(Kami)-Mama to Aniela (pronounced like ahnyella) born 9-30-09
Liz.Furtado-Mama to Maxwell, born April 5, 2010
majorsky-Mama to Laurel, born on the spring equinox '06 & Will : July '09
yippiehippie-Mama to Jack, 4-7-10
Astraia-(Grace) mama to Nigella (11/08) and Orrin (01/10)
AutumnAir-(Lisa) - mama to Eleanor Rose 01/08 and Saoirse Lily 09/10
Xavismom-(Melissa) mom to Xavian, 11-24-09

[mrs.t]

Hello All!!! Happy November! Please check over the members list, and if I didn't add your name, let me know and I will add it!!!

Kevin has been sooooo curious lately. He really gets around crawling on his stomach, and he has to touch EVERYTHING he sees. My entire day is spent chasing him around and stopping him from touching things. I am seriously going to clear the floors all over the house so he can just go for it. If I have to take something away from him, all hell breaks loose! He is so stubborn and persistent! One day I lost my patience with him because he was whining and crying over anything that was out of his reach. It's like, if he sees it, he wants it, no matter what it is. Being more mobile has definitely helped, but I guess his core personality of being completely headstrong will never change.

It's funny, one night he was trying to get to something that he couldn't reach, and I kept pulling him away and trying to distract him, but instead of crying he babbled a bunch of sounds and got louder and more angry sounding. I told DH, "I think Kevin just told me off" and he cracked up because that was exactly what it sounded like. This totally scares me considering his age. I can imagine what is in store for me when he actually can talk.

Hope everyone is well!

[momto4plus4]

Originally Posted by mrs.t

It's funny, one night he was trying to get to something that he couldn't reach, and I kept pulling him away and trying to distract him, but instead of crying he babbled a bunch of sounds and got louder and more angry sounding. I told DH, "I think Kevin just told me off" and he cracked up because that was exactly what it sounded like. This totally scares me considering his age. I can imagine what is in store for me when he actually can talk.

That is SO funny!

We've had some bad nights of screaming here. It was beyond his "typical" screaming so I took him in today and the dr did an xray, found he was super constipated with gas backed up behind it. No wonder he's so crabby.

He's also cutting his first 2 teeth but they haven't broken through yet. He's actually had some nice, happy days but his evenings have been rough.

He's still not really moving. He can sit but still sometimes topples. He still isn't rolling back to tummy. Dr isn't concerned cuz he's had so many setbacks with his tummy. When I try tummy time he just gets super mad and puts his arms and legs in the air or he pushed up, rolls and flops onto his back hitting his head on the floor then obviously screams even louder. I think he'd be happier if he'd try moving.

He's super attached. If he is happy in the exersaucer or bumbo, I can't leave the room or when I walk back in he'll scream cause he wants me. It's hard. I feel like I can't get anything done.

[P.J.]

Max is enjoying his newfound mobility (advanced army crawling is what we call it), also licking everything. Yesterday I found him licking the stroller wheels, dirt all over his face. He's getting up on hands and knees more the last couple days so I think he may be close to actually crawling, but we'll see.

Although he generally likes his new stroller, it has become just like with the carrier, where he'll be content in it, and maybe even sleep, but after some time he just decides he's not having it anymore, and starts fussing. The fussing I can handle, but it always then leads to full-on yelling. So, what I do is bring the carrier whenever I take him out in the stroller and just transfer him to the carrier when he gets super fussy. I had to ask myself as this happened yesterday at what point I'll be spoiling him and just giving him whatever he wants when he wants it, but for now I feel like if I can help him stay content then I will.

[sssheri]

Hi Everyone

I was wondering if I can join your group. I have a 6 week old girl (first time mom) who is high spirited. She isn't colicky, just needs to be held and entertained 24-7. Whenever we reach a milestone I want to tell someone, but no one really cares if my daughter sat by herself in her swing for 10 minutes!

[yippiehippie]

Originally Posted by sssheri 

Hi Everyone

I was wondering if I can join your group. I have a 6 week old girl (first time mom) who is high spirited. She isn't colicky, just needs to be held and entertained 24-7. Whenever we reach a milestone I want to tell someone, but no one really cares if my daughter sat by herself in her swing for 10 minutes!

LOL, we care! It's the little things...

Jack's also getting around so fast now. He's good on his belly and is now getting on hands and knees and will just barely move anywhere before falling to tummy.  He is pulling up, standing on everything that'll support him. Wants to get into everything, sounds about the same as max and kevin! They are just in such a hurry to see the world, it's amazing their curiousity. I forsee Jack giving me plenty of near heart attacks in his life!

Did someone put the link for this on last months thread, I didn't see an email?

[LeaPea]

Right now, Luna is learning to move, which she finds very frustrating! She is almost there. She gets on her knees, or lifts her chest up, but can't quite combine the two. Needless to say, she spends a lot of time fussing right now. She also wants to touch everything!! She is learning to sit on her own too. I know once she can move, she will be much happier.

I'm still exhausted, but I am learning to live with it. I have found some local mamas who let me vent. One of the mamas also has a high needs baby, so we commiserate. I am starting to get freaked out with the holidays coming up. Luna doesn't travel well! Plus, that means a lot of overstimulation and unwanted advice.

[mrs.t]

Ugh!! The holidays!!! I have been doing thanksgiving at my house since my mom died in 02, and this year when I said I couldn't do it, everyone acted like I was crazy. I seriously cannot handle cooking a turkey, plus all the side dishes, plus all the prep, cleaning, etc. while dealing with Kevin. A few of my family members who do not have children are not pitching in at all. No one seems to understand that this year, things have totally changed for me!!

Welcome, sssheri! We totally care about every milestone!

[P.J.]

Welcome Sssheri!

Actually I am really looking forward to the holidays. I am not looking forward to some very very long flights, I know there will be some meltdowns since it's not feasible to let Max crawl all over the plane and he will not be content to just sit for 10+ hours. I'm psyched to see my family, but I know the unwanted advice thing will probably get to me. They pretty much leave me alone, and luckily we're renting our own little apartment so they won't have to witness first-hand any sleep drama, so hopefully that will help. Also, with teething it gives the perfect 'excuse' not to have to explain anything (like constant fussing).

Which, BTW, we had a really hard day yesterday. I can only assume Max is getting his 2nd tooth b/c he keeps sticking his fingers in his mouth which he did with the first tooth, but I can't feel it coming through yet. But lots and lots of whining. The best I can do is leave the house - we were gone at least half of the day yesterday, and although there was one screaming meltdown in the stroller and near meltdown several times in the carrier, it does help tremedously to distract him by getting out and about. But yeah, I came up to my limit a couple times and was feeling like a terrible mother who doesn't have the capacity to deal.

I've been getting little daily email reminders from here http://www.enjoyparenting.com/get-your-daily-groove which I find very helpful. His website is also really good, all about keeping your center and 'groove on' in parenting. Max is teaching me day by day how to find my center and keep my cool, lol.

[sssheri]

Enjoy parenting seems like a great resource. P.J.: Where are you spending the holidays? 

I'm looking forward to it, except that it means the end of my maternity leave. I'm a special ed students with severely demanding students with emotional disorders. I am worried that I am just going to be so exhausted taking care of them all day and my precious Lorelai all night. DH will have her during the day except for 2 days but is working from home. I will have to make it work.

I'm a little nervous right now. Dh is going away till Sunday night and I will be alone with the babe the whole time. I'm sure we will be fine, but I know I won't be able to shower or cook anything more than cereal. Wish me luck!

[viteuhmihn]

Hello, everyone. New to this thread (which is so affirming!)

Here are our stats:

Viteuhmihn (Audrey)- Mama to Arlo, born 8-01-2010

Don't have time to post much right now, but will be back when I can!

[P.J.]

Originally Posted by viteuhmihn 

Hello, everyone. New to this thread (which is so affirming!)

Here are our stats:

Viteuhmihn (Audrey)- Mama to Arlo, born 8-01-2010

Don't have time to post much right now, but will be back when I can!

Welcome! I see you're from the Bay Area. I lived in Santa Cruz and then San Francisco for a long time there. I miss it so much, but am also happy where I am (Germany).

Ssheri: We'll be visiting my mom on the east coast and then California for 2.5 weeks.

We're having a rough day here. Max is soooooo fussy and whiny. Ugh! I would love to blame it on teething or his growth spurt, but I think it could be just 'one of those days'....well, a series of days actually.

Days like this I feel like I can't wait for him to be older and a bit more independent and verbal (so I know what he wants and he doesn't have to whine all the time!). I also keep thinking this is it, I am finished, no way we are having more kids. I can't imagine dealing with another HN baby and having another kid on top of that.

Breathe...breathe breathe

[yippiehippie]

Well, I'm kinda looking forward to the holidays (make that really). This will be our last around my fam...we moved here to KS where I grew up one yr ago and are now moving back to phoenix where DH is from and I lived after Christmas. So it'll be bittersweet. I did just find out most are doing other things for Thanksgiving so it'll just be us and my sister's fam at my grandparents. My sister has five, and, although her baby (3wks younger than jack) is soooooo easy-going, she totally understands everything I go through and is also an AP mama. So it'll be a relaxing, enjoyable T-day! As for Christmas, how could I not be excited for Jack's first Christmas?!? My fam knows better than to comment to me, they keep their mouth shut for the most part bc I do not deal w/others telling me how to raise my kid!

I've been sick for over a month now, DH and DS came to the doc w/me yesterday-3hrs! So no nap (can anyone else not nap away from home?) except 10min in the carseat. So it was a meltdown at home;( But I took off today and DH took him to the farmer's market and I got a nice, long, hot shower w/no interuptions!! It is so nice to get those boys out of the house sometimes!

[momto4plus4]

That would be Jeremiah. He rarely naps in the carseat or anywhere else. His longest wake time was 9 1/2 hrs. I find it amazing that he can stay awake that long. Amazing in a cruel way. lol  I hope you feel better soon. It's hard enough being sick, but being sick for so long and having a hn baby is so very hard.

[yippiehippie]

Oh, Jack cut tooth number FIVE! Four and five came around the same days AND he's been coughing-I got him sick! Poor kid, he's been such a trooper except nap and night time which really, really SUCK! OK, their home, goodbye freedom, it was nice while it lasted...