pp sex/poor DH
I have wanted to have sex for a little while now. I was mentally geared up to do it this past weekend but it didn't happen. I cry almost every other day as it is so I'm sure I'll be a wreck if things don't go "perfectly". We only had sex 3 times during my pregnancy so I feel out of practice and undesirable. Gah.
Sorry for the derail...but I do hope next time is better for you and I'm sure it will be.
DDCC-I agree with Cherrybomb. After my last pregancy my husband and I dtd around 5 weeks. I must say there were no fireworks (and I'm usually a fireworks gal.) However, the second time was better and it progressively got better. Your body has been through a lot of changes for 9 months. It may just take a little time to get back into the swing of things.
We waited about 6 weeks to DTD and it was good, but not great. I am usually a "fireworks" kinda gal too. But hubby really enjoyed it so it worked out. It is getting better for me now. My problem was I had a c-section and I felt like a virgin again or something. I was like "wait, slow down there buddy."
Don't worry. It takes a little bit for the hormones to settle and for your body to get back into the swing of things
My baby is 6 weeks and I am not ready to DTD yet. I am impressed (and a little jealous!) that you girls are already back in the game! I think it is normal to feel emotional DTD after giving birth and it is okay to honor those feelings.
After DS was born it took me almost a full year before I felt normal and comfortable with sex again. We DTD during that year but I have to admit that it was primarily for DH's benefit. If it were up to me I would have just taken a bath and gone to bed early. Not to say that I am not attracted to DH or that it isn't important, I just felt like my focus had shifted so far away from my own sexuality. I am working hard to not allow that to happen again this time, but I also want to be honest with myself and at least acknowledge how I feel (or don't feel).
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My sex drive came back even with breast feeding. I nursed for a really long time so it was bound to. But anyways. Have fun with each other. If you stress about not enjoying sex it will become a self fulfilling prophesy. When this was an issue for me my husband told me that "All sex does not have to lead to intercourse." He got the hubbie of the year award for that one.
They talk so much about skin time with the babies. Skin time with your partner can work wonders also.
Just so into the baby's needs I know I don't care about his or mine right now. sex is the last thing I'm thinking about. Plus I think im still a lil hurt he abandoned me sexually so early on in the pregnancy. Ack.