My son recently started attending a brand new Montessori school. He is a spirited, stubborn 4 year old who loves to learn but can also be a challenge. My concern is with the way his school is handling his behavior which is basically by calling me to pick him up and now indicating to me that I need to pick him up early. In my opinion the things he is doing are not out of the ordinary for a 4 year old. For example, yesterday he would not clean up his lunch area. This has been a common problem. I went in to get him and told him to clean up so we could leave. The teacher stood over him, arms crossed pointing out each thing he had to do next. (There's a paper on the floor, cheerio over there, etc) Then after he cleaned his place mat she actually held it up to the light and pointed out a spot that was still wet that he needed to dry. I was mortified and could totally understand his rebellion at this point.
All you teachers out there please give some feedback. When I indicated that I thought this was something they could handle they said that they could not make him listen and he needed to be still. His other problems are running up and down the halls-some times he goes under the tables. He is not an angel by any means but he also works for long periods and is very smart. The whole tone struck me as very negative and not Montessori. My daughter completed 3 years and another school and is wonderful. DS spent one year at that school and we switched because his teacher left and I wanted him to be in extended day. Any advice would be appreciated. I don't want to get into an argument with the teachers but I am really concerned. Thanks in advance.