(please do not post here if you are going to tell me my son is an emotionally disturbed firestarter who is going to burn us all up)
my 8 year old has a intense fascination with fire. we have always taught him fire safety. we have assisted him in learning to start fires in the fire pit and light candles. however, i keep finding evidence of him making poor choices in regards to burning things with incense and now lighting a pencil from halloween candles while his father and i and the 3 year old sleeping the day after halloween.
we have spoken frequently to him about his behavior, but he feels he has mastery over fire and can control it if something bad happens.
investigation online reveals that it is not unusual for kids like him (with poor impulse control and poor planning) to act like he does in regards to fire. i don't want to put him in a firesetting program. but i am not sure how to approach this at home. i'd like to do a formal fire safety program with him, but since we are unschoolers i feel awkward.
any ideas? i don't want to terrify him, but he needs to understand that what he is doing could potentially be very dangerous.
PS, he is my "safe" child. he is usually very careful and safety conscious. i leave him home for short periods of time, and i usually trust him to make good choices. so this is throwing me a bit.