The weight comment stoppers.

[annaconda]

didn't want to steal the twin thread thunder...

I really want a one liner to stop the comments about the body stuff.  I'm not popped yet (due in May) but I am recovering from an eating disorder (the overeating kind, not the under) and am incredibly sensitive to this subject.

I like snark but I want to have the ONE line that I'm ready to pull out that says to people...

don't comment to me again and maybe consider your thoughts before commenting to someone else.

- I think it's inappropriate to discuss my size unless you'd like to discuss yours. (slightly snarky)

- I'm having a healthy pregnancy.  My size is not your concern 

(this is a little mean)

- Though I'm sure you mean well, if we could discuss some other aspect of pregnancy than my size, I'd really appreciate it.

(this is nice...)

Thoughts?

[TheDivineMrsM]

My favorite, said with a smile: "It's a baby, not a pizza. I'm supposed to gain weight."

Use this one for people that comment on your balanced, yet slightly larger lunch while chowing down on a cheesesteak and french fries: "I'm healthier than I've ever been, and feel great. I really think about what I'm putting into my body... I couldn't eat that processed cheese/mystery meat/greasy fake potato now."

I haven't had the guts to use this one yet, but am keeping it in reserve, just in case: "I have a person in progress in my belly... what's growing in your ass?"

[soccerchic21]

I have thought to say if it is a woman commenting "Have you ever been pregnant and if so how did you feel when people commented on your size? I am sure you mean well but it makes me uncomfortable when people do this to me."

I think it is completely okay just to be frank, upfront and honest. 

I lost 40 pounds before getting pregnant this time around. My last two pregnancies I gained 50 and 70 pounds and got lots of comments. 

[EllisH]

Hi,

I sympathize - I had an eating disorder in the past too, and it's been hard to be confronted with the weight gain, esp. pre-bump, when I only seemed to put on fat. Yet while I think people take too many liberties with their comments, in my view the best way to deal with them is to accept the weight gain as part of the process of baking a beautiful baby! Pre-pregnancy I was a champion in snide rebuffs, but I don't want to ruin my own happiness with a sharp remark every time someone comments on my belly or my size - esp. since there will be many such comments! I either take pride in the comment - 'yeah, amazing belly, isn't it?' - or if it is called for I mention that I am exactly on track according to the doctor. Either comment has always marked the end of the weight topic - after all, people really aren't that interested in discussing your weight for that long!

[annaconda]

Thanks ladies!!

Just to clarify, I've worked a TON on weight acceptance - and stabilizing my weight.  So I have come to a very good place in terms of liking myself at the weight I am, eating healthy and exercising in a way that I like and can maintain.  I think there is weight "restoration" in my future but the past two years have been all about stabilizing and acceptance.

I think that in general, people don't really give a crap about my weight as it is - I know I'm healthy and most people are more concerned about themselves.

But the pregnancy thing... it's like open season is coming and I know it!

I like this comment as said to a man or to a woman

"Have you ever been pregnant and if so how did you feel when people commented on your size? I am sure you mean well but it makes me uncomfortable when people do this to me."

[jeminijad]

See... I like some sparing snark. I am not one to heap fiery coals, or always take the high road. There are too many people too dense to understand that they are being gently taught a lesson.

So "How, exactly, are my measurements any of your business?" is right up my alley.

[othersomethings]

I'm pretty sure I saw it on a t-shirt somewhere, but for some reason it keeps coming to mind. VERY snarky.

"I'm pregnant...what's your excuse?"

Works for everyone but children. (obviously if a child was commenting on my size, i'd point out to them that talking to other people about their weight is usually considered impolite.)

And now that I think about it, funny that I feel I could tell a child that but not an adult. Hmm. Maybe I'll just tell the adults that too. 

[Liora]

lol!  Priceless!

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by othersomethings 
 

Works for everyone but children. (obviously if a child was commenting on my size, i'd point out to them that talking to other people about their weight is usually considered impolite.)

And now that I think about it, funny that I feel I could tell a child that but not an adult. Hmm. Maybe I'll just tell the adults that too. 

i think this is exactly what we should all do!