I am from a blended family and my parents have been divorced since I was 11(I am now 42). My dad has been remarried to my stepmom since 2 years after his divorce. My mom is single. Everyone mostly gets along but they do not see each other much, except weddings, grandchildren birthday parties – group events. Over the years my mom has a had a lot of jealousy with my step mom regarding anything to do with the grandkids.
In DS’s eyes he has 2 Grandma’s and 1 Grandpa and of course a Grandma and Grandpa from DH too.
DS is having Grandparents day at school - with a 1 hour activity in his classroom. My in-laws live out of town, so we decided to invite my folks. We can invite 1 or 2 Grandparents.
My first reaction is that my Mom and Dad would attend. But I really can’t see them in the same room together trying to have a good time, pay attention to Brendan and not being stressed out. Especially my Mom. I will have to get a play by play earful of everything my dad said or didn’t say or whatnot. DS is still confused our Grandma Gail knows Grandpa George too LOL
The other idea is just invite my Dad alone. He works out of town so much and misses a lot of DS’s activites. This would be a real treat for both of them. My Mom sees DS all the time. Or I can invite both Dad and stepmom and just deal if my mom has a reaction. She would only know if DS said something, but that most likely would not happen.
Thanks for any feedback or ettiquette. This will help with future situations :-)