Originally Posted by EdnaMarie
I can't edit my posts normally. I meant 25F. Obviously. LOL!
My take is, it's certainly not mean to ask a child of that age to have quiet time. There are a lot of good suggestions about how to do it here. I'm taking notes.
If I knew how to get them to do stuff without making it into a huge tragedy, I would be the happiest woman on earth.
I'll just put one thing out there, and this is just something to consider--maybe he's not getting enough from you because he needs more people? Maybe not in large groups, maybe not without you (but who knows?) but a more with other kids? More time outside? More physical challenges? Around two they really do start requiring more input and while some kids need that to come 100% from mom, other kids require so much that no one person could ever do it. So that's something to think about--tiring him out with more time at the park, etc.
We go to the park down to 25C even with a baby because if we don't get that, we will not see sleep. My rule is, three hours outdoors, minimum, with exceptions on very busy / special days, if it's warm, if it's cold, as long as we can stand it and we have warm clothes.
Well, yesterday he missed his nap because I had no paitence to try and get him to fall asleep. I also wanted to see if maybe he's done with napping. He got tired and grumpy around 6 and we held out till 8. Bedtime at 8 and he did really well. Went down quickly (usually takes 45 minutes of nursing). Slept mostly all night except for waking up around 4 and wanting to nurse non-stop... It wouldn't have kept me awake except he has bad nursing habits (switching sides constantly, pinching, twiddling).. So I was up for about 1and a half hours until I finally said "no more nah nahs". He whined a little and then fell asleep and slept until 7. I think he's done with naps!
But what EdnaMarie said also resonated with me. I do feel he needs more than just me. He is very active and has loads of energy and I just can't be everything to him anymore. It would be nice if I had a little help here, but my mom lives about 13 hours away and my MIL works. The neighbors kids are inside all the time and I have come very close to stalking them by trying to get DS outside at the right moment so that they could play together.
I think I do need to talk my DH into another car. We can't really afford one right now, but it would make things so much easier for us if I didn't have to walk everywhere. The nearest park is a 40 minute walk.
Originally Posted by ssh
My DD gave up naps at 27 months. For a few weeks before that she was unable to go to sleep until about 2 or 3 in the morning. Once we stopped the naps she was grumpy at about 6 or 7 and then went to sleep at about 9 and other than nursing a few times slept for 12 hours. Once we dropped the naps DD slept sounder and for longer periods. The evening grumpiness took a few weeks to go away, but it did go away. We went from it taking hours to go to sleep really late to it taking minutes. We did do quiet time around 2 or 3 in the afternoon but it was stories or a movie. My DD would have freaked out if we had tried to shut her alone in a room. She wasn't really comfortable being alone for any period of time even to play until about 3.5. She was playing independently for periods of time before turning 3 she just wanted to be within 10 feet of me while doing it.
As for needing constant attention, let your DS 'help' you do what you need to do. Having a toddler underfoot ALL the time in not as annoying when you're both doing what you want and need to do instead of just playing. Also toddlers find our work is still play for them.
Funny you should say that. I used to let my DS help around the house all the time, but when he started to enjoy throwing things I had to stop. Last night, I tried having him help again, and it seems the throwing stage is over. He did really well helping me make dinner. I'm going to try to let him help me more often. Thanks!
Originally Posted by Bisou
My favorite book about sleep is the No Cry Sleep Solution by Pantley. She also has one for toddlers. Both offer lots of suggestions for dealing with sleep problems of all sorts. She is very against crying it out, so it might be a good choice for you if you haven't looked at it already.
My son has always been very needy and sensitive and what worked best for him was ALWAYS having a very predictable schedule. Even though he's pretty difficult about a lot of things, getting him in bed and to sleep has never really been a problem for him (except for an occasional issue) because he knows what is going to happen and it happens every single time. I have always co-slept with him as well.
You said you recently moved. Do you think he may be having problems because he's feeling unsure about his new environment? When you lay down for naps, do you read to him? I used to make my son stay on the bed with me and read for at least 30-45 minutes. Once he realized he wouldn't be getting up, he would often fall asleep.
Also, is the room dark? I had to put dark shades, like blackout shades, over my son's windows so I could get him to sleep during the day because it was often too bright. Are there other noises or distractions? I used to always put a box fan on in his room so the white noise would distract him.
Good luck! It sounds like you all need some rest.
I read the no cry sleep solution for toddlers way back when he was a year old and having lots of sleep problems. I should read it again. i want to try and night-wean, so it may help. I tried to night wean back when we were in the apartment (about 3 months ago), but it didn't work out. After staying up almost all night with him for 2 weeks, I decided he wasn't ready and gave up!
We just moved and the place isn't that comfy looking. There are boxes everywhere and we lost most of our furniture because of the mold. He is definitely feeling unsure about his environment - and I feel so bad for him. He keeps saying "I don't like our new house, mama. I want to go to Grandmas". or we go shopping and on the way home he says "I don't want to go to our new house, mama". It breaks my heart. I want to make this place as comfy for him as possible, but he needs my attention as well.
The room is bright b/c our shades haven't come in yet. I didn't order the black out shades b/c they were more expensive. Hmmm maybe I should have...