I'm interested in: stressing less and savoring more, forgiving myself for unimportant errors, putting my family (and maybe even myself) before my work, saving worry only for when it's necessary, counting my blessings, sitting still and doing nothing at all sometimes, and generally remembering to be content.
I'm trying to reform as a people-pleaser perfectionist, meaning I should get away with "good enough" and "better than nothing" at work. I loathe the thought of being seen as lazy, but I want to learn not to care. I want to loosen up. I want to roll with it.
So...how? Are there any books you'd recommend? A daily affirmation? A mantra?
If it helps to know, yes, I felt I had to be Perfect Girl growing up. My parents' scary marriage left no room for my feelings or my needs. I like to always get 100%. I generally don't like to make people mad. I'm very sensitive (which I am learning to regard as an asset, but that's putting a positive spin on it). There is a sense of humor in there somewhere, but it needs some exercise. I'm too hard on myself. I'm the breadwinner. You get the idea.
Thanks for any advice--and if I have any company in wanting to make this change, well, I'd love to hear from you.