For nearly two years, I have lived in the same place. My DP moved in with my about a year ago, but until he did it was just my son and I.
It was what I could afford at the time - $475 a month, a 2 bedroom, 1 bath tiny duplex.
My DP makes really good money. We could buy a house, or move to a nicer rental. But, he doesn't want to, for a variety of reasons, most of which I can agree make sense financially. But, it doesn't change the fact that I very strongly dislike where we live.
I need to figure out a way to make myself like this place, because I know that resentment is going to start building towards him very soon for not wanting to move.
He has been humoring me for the past month, going with me to look at other rentals, but I realized today that he has no plans to agree to a move anytime soon.
I would love some suggestions on how I could like my home more, and avoid the resentment.
Here are the things I don't like about where we live:
- Our yard is terrible. There is no backyard, and the front yard is shallow and we are on a busy street. There is no where for our son to play outside, which means that I am couped up in the house with a spirited 3.5 year old most day. We are temporarily a one car family, so that means we cannot drive to the park. There are also 12 pine trees in my front yard alone, so there is never a patch of sun to sit in, no porch to put a chair on, no grass, no where to plant a small garden.
- The interior of the house is depressing. The walls are cheap brown wood-look-alike paneling. The carpets are old, light brown, dirty and stained. No amount of cleaning has been able to revive these carpets.
- There is no designated dining area. The dining area is in the living room, and there is only room for a tiny table. I cannot put serving bowls on the table, there just isn't room. A bigger table wouldn't fit.
- Our neighbors are terrible. Shady, dark SUVs coming and going at strange hours at one house and strung out looking burly guys pacing in the driveway, at another they have two very annoying dachshunds that come into my yard when I am getting in and out of the car and growl and bark at me and my son. We are too close to the neighbors, and have no privacy.
There are good things about this place, like the 5 huge storage closets, not counting the closets in the bedroom. The laundry room is also huge. To spite the shady neighbors, this really is a safe community. Zero crime, we don't have to lock our doors. The shady neighbors make me nervous, but stick to themselves.
I have to do something to be able to get through the next year in this house that I hate. My DP doesn't even want to consider moving for another year. This makes me so upset that I just want to cry at the thought. If we only had a decent yard, it would be so different - I wouldn't hate it as much.
Does anyone have any suggestions as to how I can grow to like my home? I can provide pictures if anyone wants to see. I've got to do something, because knowing that we can afford better and not doing it is going to make me even crazier than I already am.