I'M SO SAD.... Looks like even my DH no longer supports my BF'ing :( - Page 2

[soccerchic21]

If it was me I would find a new doctor one who supports bfing. Call your nearest LLL leader. I don't know if you have been to a meeting but they are awesome.

I too early on was struggling with any issue there was with DD. Latch, milk supply, her wanting a bottle more than me, DH saying lets just formula feed.

But after my first LLL meeting no kidding it changed my life. Those women are outstanding and they know soooo much. They can probably direct you to a doc who supports bfing.

Hugs and hang in there you know what is best for you and your child.

[mom2tig99Nroo03]

also there is natural treatment for kidney stones... i know ceredenlorelei ( i KNOW i spelled it wrong, but i gotta be close) has some great info on it...


i nursed through gall bladder attacks that i was told almost killed me- i totally feel it was worth it. you are very justified in wanting to continue to provide your dc with her birthright.

those meds are safe for your nursling according to hale. please dont make yourself suffer needlessly. if it was anything that would hurt the lil one, i would rather suffer than take the meds, but these have been studied and are okay mama. :

[Peppamint]

I'm so sorry that you have no support. What an awful doctor! Surely that was illegal what she did (bringing your hubby in like that when you didn't request it).

I had a kidney stone attack while 24 weeks preggo and again when ds was a couple months old. What I did was drink 1/2 lemon squeezed into 4oz of water every 1/2 hour. Pucker up, but it's supposed to help break up the stones. It took about 12 hours to pass them (yours sound like they must be more severe or you have more of them?) and when ds needed to nurse I just carried him around and moaned etc. It was quite a sight, I'm sure.

HUGS!!

PS- I recommend finding another doctor as well! It's so hard in a small town, I do not know of a single doctor I would allow to treat me when I'm not preggo or nursing, let alone when I am!

eta: the stones hurt worse than giving birth... it's an awful pain!!!

[Wildcrafter]

You poor girl!!!!! This just sucks what you have had to endure. In the end I am sure you and your family will come out winners because of your perserverance.

I have information for helping the kidney stones herbally - let me know here, or pm me if you are interested in that route.

My dh was not supportive of me when I was told to supplement early on with our ds. Now ds is 22 months and still nurses avidely and dh has come around. It can happen!!

Mary

[joesmom]

wow. find a new doctor, a new husband, (just kidding!) BFing is SO important, esp. with all you have gone through to do it so far. after my csection i was given either percoset or darvoset, i am almost certain it was percoset, which is stronger, but i do not want to say for sure & be wrong. anyway, it took care of the pain & joe never had any effects from it.

good luck & WAY TO GO for putting baby's needs ahead of your own pain; if it was an immediately life-threatening condition i would not say this, but... you are to be commended when some moms give up BFing because they lose their 'freedom.' good job, & keep us posted.

[whateverdidiwants]

I would definitely complain. Unless you specifically said that your doctor could talk to your husband about your care, he blatantly violated the HIPAA law. I'm sure you could find the exact wording online if you want to include it.

[Ravin]

I was given percoset after my C-sec. I hoarded them and took them as little as possible, supplementing w/ motrin for a while, because DH didn't have any insurance at the time and it's one of the few painkillers that will help him when he gets a bad migraine.

I would report that doctor to someone. How incredibly insulting, and a violation of your privacy!!!! A spouse doesn't get unrestricted access to your medical info, except in cases where there's no medical power of attorney (and they prefer you to have one) and you're incapacitated/incapable of making medical decisions yourself.

Which you obviously aren't. I'd find a different doctor. Is this a specialist? Are there any others in your area?

[captain optimism]

How are you feeling, Icequeen? Did you pass the stones?

I have never had a doctor do exactly what yours did, but I did have a doctor try to intimidate me into having unnecessary surgery. When they shut the door like that, you know it's trouble, because they don't want other people in the office to hear them violate ethical procedures! Your medical information, it was OKAY to have the door open for that. : You know?

I hope your dh has decided to be supportive. If you aren't feeling the love, tell him--"I need you to do X Y Z for me, that would be the most helpful thing."