Hello, I've posted about my mom in other MDC forums, never in "Grief and Loss" and perhaps this is NOT the right place to post.
Anyway, to quickly sum it up, my mom is 60 years old and has had a medical "condition' that has completely baffled even the top docs, so I've been told. Mom is a 16 hour drive away from me 2 states away. Her mom (my grandma) lives nearby and sees her a lot, daily. So everything I know i learn from my grandma. Her condition has been "progressive", or however you want to call it. She has slowly but steadily gotten worse, to the point NOW where she is in a nursing home, and has been declared mentally incompitent and I believe is a ward of the state. She can do nothing for herself, cannot walk, can barely talk, and she has gotten down to 75 lbs. I saw her last March ('10) and again this past Sept. She had gotten so much worse just in that short period of time. When I saw her in Sept, she was "moaning", screaming, crying. It was heartwrenching. Within the last several days she has been hospitalized for a UTI and I was told last night that she has "C DIFF" ........ my grandma described my mom as NOT eating, dehydrated, losing more weight. After searching on the internet for information on C DIFF, an intestinal infection I guess, the symptoms described to me match the description of severe cases of C DIFF.
well, to get to the point of this post, my grandma told me that the hospital called for a formal meeting with my grandma, and asked if she would like my mom to be "coded". I kknow they are asking if my grandma would like my mom put on artificial life support, should it be needed. MY QUESTION HERE IS WHAT HOW BAD OR CLOSE TO DEATH DOES A PERSON "HAVE" TO BE IN ORDER FOR THIS ISSUE TO COME UP? please tell me everything you know, don't be afraid to tell me if it's bad..... and if my question doesn't make any sense, I'm sorry. thanks!