I live in an intentional community with people and families with kids of all ages. One child goes to a liberal private school, some of the kids go to conventional public school and two of the kids do a home/school blend program where one goes a few days a week and the other never goes, but does a "school at home" approach. (hates it, rebels, acts out, miserable most of his days)
A largely educated and open minded community, for the most part/so I thought.
Enter my 13 year old radically unschooled daughter.
We've only been here 6 months and she's beginning to say things like:
"well I feel really stupid here because I don't know the same stuff as them"
"unschooling isn't even legal anyway."
"I just want to go to school and do the same things as everyone else"
I've suddenly become very protective of my daughter and don't much like the influence this "open minded" community has on her! I honestly don't think this is as supportive of an environment as I once thought. I didn't have this kind of problems in a conventional neighborhood full of public schooled kids! Educate? Defend? Move?
I tried to explain to her that there were a million ways to learn, and that I thought classwork, public school and that particular model of education to be very limiting and narrow. I wanted to give her the WORLD, not just one classroom and one version of it. I tell her that I have more trust and belief in HER than in some person somewhere whose job it was to decide what EVERY ONE should be taught. (She's not "everyone"!) I hurt for my daughter, particularly if she actually believes that what she is doing is somehow inferior to anything these other kids are forced to do... and... ILLEGAL!?