Hi mamas! I will try and keep this from becoming a novel.
I am currently tandem nursing my 3.5 and almost 2.5 year old girls. They always nurse together during the day. I sleep between them at night and turn over to whoever is asking for milk. They each have a side. ;) They nurse 3-6 times during the day and 1-4 times (each!) at night. They have never really been on a nursing schedule other then nap and bedtimes.
To be completely honest, our nursing relationship has not been very healthy for the past year maybe. Both of the girls like to nuzzle/ cuddle/caress the boobies while they are nursing and this drives me up the wall! Even a gentle touch can be like nails on a chalkboard. :( I wish it didn't feel like that, but I can't change the fact that it does.
Usually sessions begin with me unlatching both of them several times to get them to stop petting me. If it's a naptime or bedtime nurse the petting usually stops and they fall asleep. DH takes one off of me and to bed and I then get up and put the other one down. If it's just a random nurse it usually ends with me saying "That's it, I'm done!" and jumping up and away from them because I.cannot.take.another.second!!! I HATE this! This is not how I want our nursing relationship to end.
I have experimented with weaning a little and it has mostly been a disaster. Older DD shows some interest in having a weaning party and doing something special with mommy to celebrate our accomplishment, but then she refuses to cut back. Whining and throwing a fit and even crying crocodile tears when I deny her. :( My little one is more easily distracted, but still becomes very upset when I say no to a nurse.
To complicate matters more we have recently been surprised with a new little one on the way. :love: We are thrilled, but I was hoping to have the nursing/sleeping situation resolved before we conceived again. Now my nipples are so, so sore and I am almost positive that I don't have it in me to nurse all three kiddos. I just don't want to. :( And how am I supposed to handle things at night?? I want the girls to stay in their bed and I want to night nurse the baby. I have no clue how to make it happen.
What should I do mammas? I don't even know where to begin. I can see no solution that will end peacefully for my girls and that just breaks my heart.
Why couldn't they have just self weaned at 3/2 like I hear happening to everyone? Not my kids! :no:
Thanks for anything you have to offer me.