Lets chat Nov 13-20 - Page 2

[GolfAddict]

Originally Posted by Kaydove 

9 weeks today as well. I had an ultrasound on Tuesday for dating purposes. We LOVED seeing our little babe and hearing the heartbeat! It was amazing! My DH cried like a baby! I was really excited and in awe but didn't cry, got teary-eyed though. The heart rate is 161, so the old wives tale of over 150 means its a girl.

Hmmm...at 7w6d our little beans HB was 153.  At 11w1d it was in the 160's.  With my MC in March, I was for sure it was a boy...no particular reason...just a feeling.  But this time I really don't have strong feelings either way. 
 

Originally Posted by littleteapot 

I'm 12.5w now; feeling regular kicks, still nauseous as all hell, and had a 'dating' ultrasound that lasted all of 10 minutes.

Kicks at 12.5 wks...WOW!!  I'm 11w5d today.  I've been trying to sit very still on the couch at night to see if I can feel anything.  So far nothing...but I'm not sure I would recognize kicks anyway...until they were more obvious.

Originally Posted by Bald_Bull's_Mama 

I keep thinking my nausea is going away, having one good day, then being miserable again. Still struggling with what to eat. Nothing sounds good still. I'm really hoping this will be done soon so I can get back to my normal, healthy eating. Saltines and chocolate graham crackers constantly has me worried that I'm getting enough protein. Protein foods do not sound good, though I had some tasty tofu stir fry on Friday. 

I'm in the same boat.  It really makes meal planning a pain.  And I haven't been digging protein lately either.  I'm really hoping that changes soon since I know it is very important.

AFM ~ We had an appt last Friday at 11w1d.  We got to hear the HB on the doppler!!  I was so nervous.  I literally felt a huge amotional release when I heard the HB.  We also asked for a quick sono since we wanted to give pics to our family to break the news.  The MW was fine with it since I explained my MC and she completely understood my fears.  When the sono first started it was wiggling about.  But I guess the news freaked it out and it just froze.  She tried bouncing the wand and wiggling it back and forth but nothing.  We did see the little flicker of the heart too. 

So we told our family on Sat night and posted the news on FB on Sun.  Of course, everyone was excited.  My dad, who is the old-fashioned non-emotion-showing type, took his sono pic to church with him the next day.  I thought that was very sweet.

I have already outgrown some of my pants.  I have/had a retroverted uterus.  I had tons of painful stretching and pulling last Sun & Mon.  Originally, I thought I overdid it by playing 18 holes of golf the day before.  But I woke up last Thurs and was unable to hide my bump anymore. So I think my uterus has flipped to front-facing now.  I bought one pair of mat pants at Target and a couple shirts from Target and Old Navy.  I'm kinda in-between reg and mat, so I wear the bella band over the panel and it works fine.  I've been buying one item per week so it doesn't seem so expensive.

I'm still pretty tired.  But I'm more of a home-body and wasn't very energetic before being pg either.  And, like a lot of you guys, my nausea turned to just sporadic around 9w rather than everyday all day.
 

[JustVanessa]

Thanks everyone for the well wishes. Everyone is home now and my ds is fully recovered. Dh is sore but glad to be home. I am so happy to be home but it feels like I am a single mom of three right now. Oh and my cats were in the whole time we were gone so there is hair everywhere and laundry up to the ceiling.

Nikki- I am starting the mat clothes too, my pants are just plain uncomfortable

So sorry for everyone who gets negative responses from family. That would be so hard to deal with.

[JosieAK]

I enjoy reading everyone's updates.  I hope everyone is hanging in there.

I am in a little tizzy.  Our entire Alaska family (parents, 3 brothers, SIL, DH, DD, and I) have been planning a trip to Ohio to see my grandparents for their 60th Anniversary. I have tickets to fly on Sunday.  This has been in the plans for over a year now.  Last month my grandmother was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Yuck.  She went in for two surgeries and, as of this weekend, contracted a painful infection.  Double yuck.  This morning, I got a phone call from my mother informing me that this infection is in fact MRSA, that my Papaw might have it too, and that their whole house is probably contaminated.

I was so excited about going down with their 21 month old ONLY great-grandchild and announcing my pregnancy to the family.  Ta-DA!  Now I am trying to decide if I should go at all.  Thankfully, we already have arrangements to stay in another home for the week.  We have other family there and were all going to share meal responsibilities and go on some day trips and such.  I really want to see my elderly grandparents. I love them dearly.  The doctor is sending her home from the hospital on Friday with strong antibiotics, a visiting nurse, and reassurances that he believes that 75% of the infection is already erradicated and good handwashing should prevent the rest of us from getting sick.  BUT . . .  I know doctors do not take risks with contagious deseases.   BUT . . .

Anyway, we have some big decisions to make.  I am trying to decide if I should get some Hibiclens, do some nettipot type nasal washing, etc. and go, or just stay home or what. 

In more exciting news, I go to see my midwife tomorrow and I hope and pray we'll hear a heartbeat!  :)  I hope, hope, hope!  I wonder if I'd be too much of a dufus if I bought a video camera.  :)  I just sort of want to be able to relive the moment.

[Mommy2Austin]

Gahhh! I want to quit my job...I literally loathe it and just when I think my counseling might change my mind something happens to throw right back in my face how much I no longer want to be there.

Anyone have a half mil laying around?? I could REALLY use it at the moment.

In baby related news...I'm still on the fence. Would love the non-stress of a UP/UC, but for the need for someone to sign off on FMLA. However, if I'm not going to be at my job for the long term and plan on quitting before baby comes, then what is the point of going to the stress of find a provider...

[BarefootScientist]

Josie, that sounds terrible!  I hope everyone gets better soon.  Best of luck on your decision on whether to go!

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin 

Gahhh! I want to quit my job...I literally loathe it and just when I think my counseling might change my mind something happens to throw right back in my face how much I no longer want to be there.

Anyone have a half mil laying around?? I could REALLY use it at the moment.

In baby related news...I'm still on the fence. Would love the non-stress of a UP/UC, but for the need for someone to sign off on FMLA. However, if I'm not going to be at my job for the long term and plan on quitting before baby comes, then what is the point of going to the stress of find a provider...

Hey!  :wave  Someone else who hasn't found a provider yet!  :)  I am on the fence as well.  Although I will be getting a provider eventually.  I'm just not sure if it will be a homebirth midwife or hospital-based midwife.  I am waiting to see what our insurance says and what DH thinks about hiring a homebirth midwife.  I'm trying to  impress upon him that if we DON'T hire the hb midwife, I'm still going to prefer to stay home (UC).  He seems more comfortable than I'd ever thought possible about that, but that's not saying much.  ;)  So we will see.  I think I would prefer a midwife, but I could also be ok with a UC, and I am preparing myself for it anyway.

If you quit your job, would you be getting another, or are you planning to be a SAHM?

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by BarefootScientist 

Josie, that sounds terrible!  I hope everyone gets better soon.  Best of luck on your decision on whether to go!

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin 

Gahhh! I want to quit my job...I literally loathe it and just when I think my counseling might change my mind something happens to throw right back in my face how much I no longer want to be there.

Anyone have a half mil laying around?? I could REALLY use it at the moment.

In baby related news...I'm still on the fence. Would love the non-stress of a UP/UC, but for the need for someone to sign off on FMLA. However, if I'm not going to be at my job for the long term and plan on quitting before baby comes, then what is the point of going to the stress of find a provider...

Hey!  :wave  Someone else who hasn't found a provider yet!  :)  I am on the fence as well.  Although I will be getting a provider eventually.  I'm just not sure if it will be a homebirth midwife or hospital-based midwife.  I am waiting to see what our insurance says and what DH thinks about hiring a homebirth midwife.  I'm trying to  impress upon him that if we DON'T hire the hb midwife, I'm still going to prefer to stay home (UC).  He seems more comfortable than I'd ever thought possible about that, but that's not saying much.  ;)  So we will see.  I think I would prefer a midwife, but I could also be ok with a UC, and I am preparing myself for it anyway.

If you quit your job, would you be getting another, or are you planning to be a SAHM?

I wouldn't mind having another job (preferably a part time gig) but I stayed at home for the first 5 years of our marriage and thought working was what i needed...now I realize unless I do something I'm passionate about I'm never going to be happy working. And my job is so beyond the level of stress most people can take in a lifetime on a daily basis that I know now why they say we go to an early grave when we retire...

[calynde]

Hi everyone,

I'm almost 10 weeks! The nausea has been pretty mild this week...it comes in spurts if anything. I'm still exhausted in the afternoons and evenings, though!

I wanted to say that I started up with the prenatal yoga a few days ago. My toddler played independently for a whole hour while I did the entire practice!!!! I felt soooooo good. I've been laying around like a first trimester slug, and my muscles were starting to feel it! Realistically, I hope to do an hour twice a week.  haha

[painefaria]

Hello Everyone,

Josie - I hear you about the concerns with the MRSA.  What a choice to make.  Are you any closer to making a decision? 

Sarah (mommy2Austin)  I am Sarah also...  There are many days that I think work is just too much, what do you do?  I wish that I could just walk away but I am the main breadwinner in our family.  I wish that I had the guts to UP/UC. 

Barefoot - That's great that DH is on board for a UC. 

Calynde - I am glad that you are feeling better and things are starting to get back to normal. 

AFM - well I fired my OB today  and the HB MIdwife called me back and she is seeing me on SATURDAY!  I am so happy.  As for the OB I am working on a LONG letter of all of the issues that I have had with them over the last year.  The last straw happended last night.  I needed zofran to be authorized so that I could fill it early and the office contacted my insurance on Monday.  They received a fax back Monday night stating that it was approved but NO ONE called me back to tell me.  So  I called yesterday after throwing up for the last two days and the nurse stated "well the letter that they faxed me stated that they contacted you"  I was so angry... you couldn't have called me on Monday night to say hey you don't have to go without your meds!  AHHHH I AM DONE! 

[GolfAddict]

Originally Posted by JosieAK 

I enjoy reading everyone's updates.  I hope everyone is hanging in there.

I am in a little tizzy.  Our entire Alaska family (parents, 3 brothers, SIL, DH, DD, and I) have been planning a trip to Ohio to see my grandparents for their 60th Anniversary. I have tickets to fly on Sunday.  This has been in the plans for over a year now.  Last month my grandmother was diagnosed with breast cancer.  Yuck.  She went in for two surgeries and, as of this weekend, contracted a painful infection.  Double yuck.  This morning, I got a phone call from my mother informing me that this infection is in fact MRSA, that my Papaw might have it too, and that their whole house is probably contaminated.

I was so excited about going down with their 21 month old ONLY great-grandchild and announcing my pregnancy to the family.  Ta-DA!  Now I am trying to decide if I should go at all.  Thankfully, we already have arrangements to stay in another home for the week.  We have other family there and were all going to share meal responsibilities and go on some day trips and such.  I really want to see my elderly grandparents. I love them dearly.  The doctor is sending her home from the hospital on Friday with strong antibiotics, a visiting nurse, and reassurances that he believes that 75% of the infection is already erradicated and good handwashing should prevent the rest of us from getting sick.  BUT . . .  I know doctors do not take risks with contagious deseases.   BUT . . .

Anyway, we have some big decisions to make.  I am trying to decide if I should get some Hibiclens, do some nettipot type nasal washing, etc. and go, or just stay home or what. 

In more exciting news, I go to see my midwife tomorrow and I hope and pray we'll hear a heartbeat!  :)  I hope, hope, hope!  I wonder if I'd be too much of a dufus if I bought a video camera.  :)  I just sort of want to be able to relive the moment.

YIKES!!  Lots of things to think about.  Maybe your MW has some advice.  And as far as the camera idea, I was totally going to record the doppler on my phone video BUT...I forgot!!      I was kicking myself after I left the office. 
 

Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin 

Gahhh! I want to quit my job...I literally loathe it and just when I think my counseling might change my mind something happens to throw right back in my face how much I no longer want to be there.

 I can kinda relate.  I don't necessarily hate my job but I would just really love to be a SAHM.  Our problem is that DH and I both grew up dirt poor and have fears of not being able to provide if something happened to the only employed person's job.  It is just scary to me to not have the security blanket of the second job.

Originally Posted by BarefootScientist 

Hey!  :wave  Someone else who hasn't found a provider yet!  :)  I am on the fence as well.  Although I will be getting a provider eventually.  I'm just not sure if it will be a homebirth midwife or hospital-based midwife.  I am waiting to see what our insurance says and what DH thinks about hiring a homebirth midwife.  I'm trying to  impress upon him that if we DON'T hire the hb midwife, I'm still going to prefer to stay home (UC).  He seems more comfortable than I'd ever thought possible about that, but that's not saying much.  ;)  So we will see.  I think I would prefer a midwife, but I could also be ok with a UC, and I am preparing myself for it anyway.

 Kudos to your DH for being comfortable with the UC/HB!!  I can't even get my DH to be comfortable with a MW...IN A HOSPITAL!!!  I bought "Business of Being Born".  Hopefully, that will help him understand a little more.

Originally Posted by calynde 

Hi everyone,

I'm almost 10 weeks! The nausea has been pretty mild this week...it comes in spurts if anything. I'm still exhausted in the afternoons and evenings, though!

I wanted to say that I started up with the prenatal yoga a few days ago. My toddler played independently for a whole hour while I did the entire practice!!!! I felt soooooo good. I've been laying around like a first trimester slug, and my muscles were starting to feel it! Realistically, I hope to do an hour twice a week.  haha

Which prenatal yoga did you get?  I would really prefer a class but I can't find any that are close to me.

AFM ~ Not much new to report.  The snack guy put dill pickle potato chips in the machines at work...I LOVE HIM!!  And it has been fun to see people in the hallway who look down at my bump then back up to my face and just smile.  I'm just waiting for the right person to ask so I can deny it and see the look on their face.  Is that mean?
 

[elonwy]

I'm 12w5d and I got to hear the heartbeat yesterday for my birthday. I had a little chat with my tummy before the MW got out the doppler, asking whoever is in there to please be helpful so we could hear, and it worked! :p It only took a couple minutes to find it and we got to listen for a little over a minute. 154 bpm. Awesome :)

Also, my pregnancy brain cannot deal with this giant clear button under the posts. I am I the only one who has blearily clicked it only to go Noooooo! I meant to hit submit! You'd think with it being on the other side it would be fine, but noooo. *sigh*

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by painefaria 

Hello Everyone,

Josie - I hear you about the concerns with the MRSA.  What a choice to make.  Are you any closer to making a decision? 

Sarah (mommy2Austin)  I am Sarah also...  There are many days that I think work is just too much, what do you do?  I wish that I could just walk away but I am the main breadwinner in our family.  I wish that I had the guts to UP/UC. 

Barefoot - That's great that DH is on board for a UC. 

Calynde - I am glad that you are feeling better and things are starting to get back to normal. 

I'm a correctional officer. I work in a female prison.


 

Originally Posted by GolfAddict 

 I can kinda relate.  I don't necessarily hate my job but I would just really love to be a SAHM.  Our problem is that DH and I both grew up dirt poor and have fears of not being able to provide if something happened to the only employed person's job.  It is just scary to me to not have the security blanket of the second job.

I totally understand that :) We've been there many times...which might be why it DOESN'T scare me any more. I'm the breadwinner at the moment (DH job he just started and is about $5 an hr. less than what i make) so its a big struggle in my mind. DH has already offered to take on a second job in the evenings so I no longer have to work. I love him for it, but I don't want to do that to him.

[painefaria]

Sarah - That's tough.  As a case Manager I have spent some time in our local prison and it is not a fun place to be.  What do you really want to do?  What's you passion?

[JosieAK]

Golf Addict: Dill Pickle Chips!  Yum! I had deep fried pickle slices at the State Fair in August with a teeny bit of ranch.  Oh my!  Heaven!  I wasn't pregnant then, though.  I just have always loved pickles!  They taste better than ever, though!

I have a WHOLE bunch of people praying that I will hear a heartbeat today.  It's really my last chance for a while with me getting on a plane on Sunday. I hope, hope, hope it works!  I guess I will update later.

We have decided to go to Ohio.  I think my biggest concern, actually, is for my 21 month old.  She doesn't understand hygine and cleanliness, although she does like to wash her hands.  Thankfully, we'll have a little army of relatives watching her movements.  My parents are down there right now disinfecting the house, and I'm sure every precaution will be taken once my grandma is home from the hospital.  Thankfully, the majority of our time will not be spent in that environment.  It's still going to be tough, but I feel good about our decision.

ETA: No Heartbeat heard today. :(  I am trying not to feel too bummed.  I feel very pregnant, though.  I'm sure all is fine.

Edited by JosieAK - 11/18/10 at 11:47pm

[calynde]

I just have the Gaiam prenatal yoga dvd with Shiva Rea. It was way too slow and easy for me for my last pregnancy because i had been doing a much more rigorous practice before that point. But now i feel old and stiff and i love that the dvd is so gentle and easy...the stretching really hits the spot!

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by painefaria 

Sarah - That's tough.  As a case Manager I have spent some time in our local prison and it is not a fun place to be.  What do you really want to do?  What's you passion?

Yeah it really isn't a nice place to be. I always pictured myself working with children growing up. A teacher or counselor...I long or the days when I can be den mother to my boys cub scout troop and a leader in my daughter's girl scout troop.

Since having my babies I've become more passionate about birth, breastfeeding, and such so I've looked down those avenues as well.

The biggest issue is not having the $$ for schooling or to even take time from work to try to go back to school. So I'm either going to keep the family afloat or send us to the poor house to be happy.

Originally Posted by calynde 

I just have the Gaiam prenatal yoga dvd with Shiva Rea. It was way too slow and easy for me for my last pregnancy because i had been doing a much more rigorous practice before that point. But now i feel old and stiff and i love that the dvd is so gentle and easy...the stretching really hits the spot!

I defintely need to try some yoga...always wanted to, but never have.

[Max'sMama]

Originally Posted by amaayeh   I have my first midwife appointment a week from today and I have no idea what will go on.  She said the appointment will last 2 hours!  What are we going to talk about for that long?  She also said I can bring my kids, but that sounds like a nightmare for two hours.  My kids never seem to stop talking! 

Sorry your family is not reacting well.  That's a bummer.  But for the midwife...how exciting.  That is one of my favorite parts of the pregnancy.  The visits with the midwife.  If she has told you to bring your kids, do it!  They will likely have a blast.  Also, two hours will fly by.  The midwife will go over all the paperwork, get a really detailed history and you will learn more about her as she learns about you.  The time will seriously fly by.  Faster than you can imagine.  

I love going to our midwives house.  She has bunches of kids that she homeschools and my kids get so excited when they know it's time to visit with her. 

Edited by Max'sMama - 11/19/10 at 7:44am

[BarefootScientist]

I wouldn't say my DH is comfortable with UC. Just didn't totally freak out at the idea. That's all.

[BHappy]

Hey all,

Just popping in from lurkdom to say hey. All is going well here. Not too much news. I'm ending my 12th week on Sunday, which is amazing.  I had a missed m/c early last year, and have been kind of holding my breath so to speak for all these weeks so far. I had lost my baby at about this time last time, and I feel so much different this pregnancy. We heard the heartbeat on a doppler at my 9 week appointment, which was so exciting.  And now that I'm nearing 12 weeks, I'm feeling less obsessed with "what day I'm on". I'm still feeling nauseated every day for most of the day. I do feel a little less exhausted, though chasing 21 first graders around all day will send anyone to bed by 8:30!  Thank goodness those kids keep me distracted from my nausea. I started telling colleagues at work, which is fun. It's a good time of year for happy new baby news.

So on the UC front. I need to confess that I would love to labor and birth at home with a doula. However, because of my birth history (ds&ds twin birth: 1 vag, 1 emerg c/s; then with dd a premature labor at 33 weeks, vbac at 35 weeks), I am reluctant (and dh is completely against) to plan home birth. We live 40 minutes from the nearest hospital. That all said, I would like to prepare myself in the event that I am progressing quickly, so I know how to handle an unassisted birth. Where can I get good information and supplies? Should I ask my midwife? 

I'm enjoying keeping up with everyone, and hope to pop in more often as the months progress. Be well, everyone! Stay healthy and stress-free! :) I also am so looking forward to feeling better and being more able to take care of my body the way I'd like... Yoga: yes. Light pilates: yes. Walks: yes.

xo

[Mamatoabunch]

Yesterday I went and took all my too big maternity and traded it for new, smaller stuff. I weigh 30lbs less than I did w/ the last two. I took Makaley my oldest and we had lunch out as well. We then went to the library. As we were leaving I bent to pick up a bag of books and Makaley was lifting another bag. Well her bag collided w/ my cheekbone and now I have a black eye! Ouch! We have people coming to see our house up for sale this afternoon, so off to tidying up excessively.

[Bald_Bull's_Mama]

I've been taking a bit of a board break. Hearing about so many having losses and feeling sad for those mamas was making me too worried, like things were too fragile. I met with my midwife on Tuesday. Last time, I had an OB, so I am loving the personal care. Many people in my AP group have used this gal, so I know her ideals are in line with mine. I spent over an hour talking with her! I had a sono on Wednesday, just to reassure myself (again with the feeling fragile). I saw the baby move, heartbeat is 172. I kind of wish I hadn't had it, though. I'm measuring a week ahead and I'm positive on my dates. I'll have to wait until my next appointment to see if we can go by my dates or not. If nothing else, I'll know and can resist any pressure to induce based on the actual dates. They checked my progesterone levels, since I had an early loss before DS. Levels are good. I go back in 2 weeks to have them checked again. I feel good that they are being proactive with my care.

I got out a bunch of maternity things and washed them. They're hanging up in the other closet, waiting. I can still fit my regular clothes, but I feel really conspicuous. Most people, including our familes don't know yet and I'm not sure if DH is going to tell his family before Thanksgiving. I don't want to go, them not know and them talk about my big fat gut when I leave. I'm wanting to get some leggings and loose tunic type things, but I'm not having a lot of luck finding anything. There seem to be lots of sweaters, just not lots of shirts. I'm hoping to get these in regular, non-maternity sizing and use them for transitional before and after wear. Any suggestions? I've been to Target, Old Navy and my local mall.