My ILs live an hour away from us. We see them a few times a month on average.
DS is 13mths. He is a very active, "high needs" type of guy and when he was very small would not accept any place other than my arms. And sometimes DH. A couple of times MIL came over to try and watch DS while I took a yoga class. DH works from home and said that the baby just cried and cried with "Nana" until DH came out and held him. His mother doesn't seem to be comfortable with the baby, which is odd cuz she pretty much raised my SILs boys! But, you know when someone looks awkward with a babe?
MIL told me that I need to let him get to know her and cry...but it just never sat right with me.
So, I stopped trying to go to yoga and don't leave DS with anyone else besides his dad.
When ILs came in our apt for DHs first bday he took one look at them and screamed in fear!
He is no longer superglue baby at all, although he takes maybe 10-15 min to size up a new situation, staying in my arms or holding on to me...once he gets acclimated he is an independent hilarious chatty flirty man! With everyone, in everyplace....except ILs.
Today we tried an experiment and DH took DS to ILs for the afternoon. I had a wonderful Sunday bumping around ILs quaint little town while DH planned on giving baby lunch at his folks house. DS was in a great mood when they dropped me off. He was napped, nursed and laughing. DH told me that as SOON as they walked into his parents house (before they even saw his parents) the baby burst into tears. He said DS was arching his back and screaming. So he ended up giving him lunch outside on his parents lawn!
I should say that they are "walk on eggshells" type people. And they are very nervous since about 4 years ago DHs older sister attempted suicide several times. I love them. They are generous and loving. But honestly they are exhausting sometimes...they want to please so so so badly that they can be draining. I know that sounds kind of harsh...but it's how I feel :( DH thinks that the baby has picked up my feelings about them. I kind of think that the baby is just a super sensitive soul and he can't stand the anxiety. But who knows, maybe I am projecting. It doesn't matter because the whole situation is awful...DH said his parents are just heartbroken. And it's a cycle now...everyone is nervous...sensitive, getting defensive....
We are going there on Thanksgiving. Has anyone had an experience like this? Any advice?