Wondering if the "you cook, I'll do the dishes" system/rule is ever used for SAHMs. I don't usually cook complicated meals and we take in dinner a couple times a week - so I don't actually produce many dirty pots in one night very often (once a week perhaps) - but when I do (like I did this past Saturday evening) I would so appreciate the gesture of dh stepping in to wash the pots afterward (and I hate cleaning pots!). He says it's my job, as a SAHM. He works pretty long hours on weekdays and does work at home on the weekends too. But if we're both free after dinner and have time to relax and watch TV, he thinks it should be me who does the dinner dishes, since I have time then. I usually am too pooped after dinner and kids are in bed to do anything much so I clear up dishes from table and counter and tidy up, but I leave the actually dish washing until the next morning. He gets frustrated in the morning that there are dirty dishes around.
Anyway - - is it fair for him to do some dishes in the evening? Or is it my job since I'm the SAHM and he's working a lot of the time that he's home too?