i mostly like our arrangement. it generally works out to whoever didn't cook, cleans. since he NEVER cooks, he generally does the bulk of the dishes. i do usually help a bit in the kitchen though, putting food away and stuff like that. it does annoy me that he seems to be completely incapable of actually cleaning the kitchen without my presence, but i also appreciate that i usually cook more involved meals than he would bother with, so there are usually a couple pots and pans, and jars of seasonings and produce that needs to go away. he washes our breakfast and even my lunch dishes without complaining, so in general i feel lucky.
since dd is now usually eating dinner with us, it's getting a bit more complicated... she sometimes needs a good hosing down and is really ready to be put to be bed by the time dinner is finished, so we have to toss for who does dishes and who does bathtime. i don't feel that's an entirely fair division of labour, since dh has no take-home work and i'm the one that will also have to do bedtime and night-time nursing.