Hi ladies, I don't post on Mothering much anymore bc of a pesky ex friend who feels the need to know whats going on in my life and stalks me here but I have had a real bad day and can use some of your support.
Today my son had a GI appointment. We have been having some odd things going on with his penis the past month. It gets really swollen, red, lumpy looken, bumps or any combination of the four. He still pees fine and isn't in any pain from it. I made sure it isn't hernia related since he has has a couple hernia surgeries. Anyway, it just happened to be puffed up today while we had this appointment and I asked the Dr to take a look at it. Before I took his diaper off I told the Dr. "do not retract his foreskin". When he started touching him pulling at his foreskin I repeated "Do not retract his foreskin". He kept pulling it back and I angrily said " DO NOT RETRACT HIS FORESKIN!". Then I had to smack his hands off my son while I yelled at him "DO NOT RETRACT HIM!!! I am beyond mad at this point. The Dr. looks at me and says "You don't retract his foreskin when you bath him?" I am in total shock that this ha just happened and he is clearly a believer in retracting and I am blanking on why I don't so I just say "yes I retract him". Then he asked me why he cant and I tell him because he is my son and I am the only one that is going to do it, "I am just a weird mom like that" He then went on to ask if it hurt when i retract it (I say no) and that if I don't retract it and clean it properly he will get a build up of smegma and it will cause him pain and eventually his foreskin wouldn't retract and his skin could grow to his head causing pain and issues. I just nodded trying to get the heck out of there before I knocked the crap out of him and started to cry.
My son never cried during this process so I am pretty sure he wasn't hurt but I actually saw the opening to his urethra before I got the Dr off of him. So please tell me I stopped this in time. He didn't actually retract my son did he? And how frickin dare he do that! And how many parents just let this creep do it because 1) he is a Dr and 2) he throws out big fancy words and says some scary things. I am starting to hate Drs really. UGH! I am SO mad and frustrated here!!