If she doesn't pick up her daughter by 10:30 PM my husband wants to call the police! CRAZY 2011... - Page 9

[limabean]

Originally Posted by gbailey 

The mom contacted me again last night. This time with about 40 (yes, 40 text messages). The first few were about not responding to her email, about ten asking me what I was doing and if I wanted to get together, the others were just nonsensical. After about the 39th message, I called her but she didn't answer so I left her a message. I was firm but not nasty and told her to stop texting me, I don't have anything to offer her and the ACS worker is better equipped to help her but in the meantime she needs to stop contacting me and that was that. She texted me after that and said OK. These texts were also happening very late at night but I haven't heard from her since.

Thanks for the PPs great comments and advice. I went ahead and took one-girls advice this morning and blocked her from being able to send me emails. I have to call my cell phone carrier and ask how I can block her from sending me texts. I've already put ignore as her name so if she calls I know not to answer it. DH doesn't think there's anything wrong with her at all except she takes advantage of people and manipulates them. Whatever it is, I'm done and just hope her DD is okay.

Oh my goodness. She sounds really ill. What do you mean by "nonsensical" in reference to her texts? You're continuing to handle it very well -- it must be so upsetting. 

[purslaine]

I think you have handled the whole situation really well.

A friend sent me a poem that really spoke to me (and I have been through something similar to you lately).  Hope it helps:

People come into your life for a reason, a season, or
a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you
will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON . . . It is
usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have
come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you
with guidance and support, to aid you physically,
emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason
you need them to be.

Then, without any wrong doing on your part, or at an
inconvenient time, this person will say or do something
to bring the relationship to an end.

Sometimes they die.
Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our
desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you
sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

There is more to the poem, here it is in full if you like:

http://www.yuni.com/library/docs/631.html

I think the universe recognized you (or the mother did, on some subconscious level) as someone who could deal with the issues she had, and put you in her path.  She needed a friend for a reason, and you were it.    

Of course, it is also possible the whole thing is random.

Either way, she had a need for intervention and you filled it.  It is a good thing.

Take care of yourself,

Kathy

[wytchywoman]

FWIW I think you are doing the right thing as well. Honestly, she sounds like she is either severely mentally ill and not seeking treatment or she is using drugs (heavily and frequently). Neither is a good scenario to have to deal with. ((((HUGS)))) to you.