I guess I would give her the benefit of the doubt. Considering she didn't leave enough diapers or a change of clothes I would assume she really didn't think she would be as long as she has been. I would be irritated that she hadn't returned your calls but I would wait for the explanation before getting too upset just yet.
Totally different situation but I remember leaving early for work one day for my job with plans to stop and check on my sick aunt on the way to work in the next town over and I didn't home for three days. It cascaded into meetings with several doctors and ended with me holding my aunts hand while she passed away before coming home to my son. I hadn't taken a change of clothes or more importantly my breast pump with me. So I guess I can understand how a family emergency can take longer than expected. (Though I did keep in phone contact with my husband I don't think I answered my cell phone even once since I was in ICU with my aunt, he ended up just having to wait for me to call to find out what was going on). I'm sure I did stop for food on the way home as I'm not entirely sure what I did for food most of those three days. They were kinda a haze. But once I did get a break I'm sure I needed to eat before I could care for someone else.
Edited by JollyGG - 11/15/10 at 8:08pm