Quote:Originally Posted by NYMOM07
so today my 3 year old told me his penis hurt and when i looked at it the tip was really swollen so i took him to the pedi right away. he said it was an infection under the foreskin and gave an antibotic. that was around 11 am. so as the day went on, his entire penis swelled up and he was in so much pain and it hurts for him to pee. so we went to the hospital for a second opinion, and they agreed with the pedi and said he also had a mild uti. they were very concerned that his foreskin is not retractable at all, and that if we cant clean it that this is going to happen again and that we may/probably will have to circumcize him.
i am now very concerned because
a. i need to make sure he pees, he at this time is scared to because of the pain and i dont want them to put in a catheter.
b. is this going to be reoccuring, ended in the need to have him circumized, because i dont want him to have to endure this again is is really bad.
c. i am concerned with the inability to retract his foreskin because it seems like it has disconnected from the head but the hole is so small that it cannot be pulled back at all, possibly indicated that he does have a problem and it wont go back on its own.
if anyone can direct me with their own experience with something like this, i would really appreciate it.
also, any advice on natural ways to get the hole to open so the skin can begin to be retracted? i think we are heading for a disaster if we cant start to pull back his skin and clean his penis correctly, and i dont want to circumsize him if we dont have to (obviously(
3 years old is a pretty common age for the separation process to start and it is often confused with infection. If they didnt do a swab then you cant know for sure it is an infection. Here is a helpful thread that you should look at to protect your ds from the Dr.. who obviously are scaring you for no reason. http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=764732
a. did you try having him pee in a cup of water or in the bath. That will stop the sting.
b. The only reasons for circ are gangrene, frostbite and cancer if this was your dd with a labial infection would you even thing about cutting on her? Not snarky just putting that out there to help you think. As for it happening again the odds of that are very small.
c. at 3 I would be surprised if he where retracting. The avg. age for retraction is 10.5 years and it isnt considered an issue until the boy is in his teens or an adulthood.
My ds got a bacterial infection at 3yo his penis swelled to the size of his wrist it was horrendous but once I got him on the abx he was nearly back to normal in 24 hours and totally back to normal in 48 he has never had a single problem since and wouldnt have then had I not changed his diaper and let him play with dirty hands after being outside.
No one but your ds should ever retract it. You are cleaning it right as long as you are wiping it like a finger and not retracting at all.
The advice to retract causes scar tissue and major issues down the road. Please dont let them retract him and if he does get a cath. remove their hands should they even look as though they are pushing the skin back. With him that swollen it could very well get stuck behind the glans then you would have a major problem.
I know it is hard seeing your ds in pain BTDT with both my kids ds with the bacterial infection and dd with a monster yeast infection but they do recover from it without cutting. If they keep up the circ talk ask them how they would treat him if he was already circ since yes circ boys get infections like that to.