Originally Posted by HappyMommy2
Can you put a couple of his favorites near you? For example, I have a toy box down in the laundry room, and another one in my bedroom, because they follow me everywhere.
Toys are in every room except ours. Living has games and puzzles, office has a car/train table and all his block playing stuff, bedroom has barn set.
Originally Posted by moominmamma
Yes, that's a ton of toys by our family's standards. We have four kids and have never had anywhere near that many. I suspect part of the problem is just having too many choices. Packing away eighty percent of them might help.
But I think the real solution is to include him in your life, not expect either that (a) he should amuse himself alone or (b) he should be able to include you in his pursuits all the time. Developmentally 3.5 is a time when the learning orientation is highly social. Kids are developing the language skills and conceptual understanding of others that really drives them to need interaction, to learn how to relate to people. And their parents are the most available social proving ground. So it's not only natural that he should want to be involved with you, it's important that he be able to do so.
What are your responsibilities you leave him to try to get done? Can't you bring him along, with a couple of diversionary toys perhaps, to the laundry room, or the kitchen, or the basement? Toss him a pile of clothes to "sort," fill the sink with water for him to play in while you clean the tub, keep a dialog going, let him do what he feels like doing, playing beside you, helping out, whatever. It might take you a bit longer to get done what you'd intended, but you also won't need to spend all that time trying (but often failing) to get him busy with independent play.
I know it looks like a ton! It looks rather sparse though, but maybe that's because the room is so large. We have two bookcases similar to this, but a discontinued style that holds most of the toys. Things are displayed neatly and everything on the shelf is in its own home. My son knows where it all is, but sometimes I think it being out of sight, keeps him from playing with certain things.
My responsibilities are just the typical dailies, aside from recently starting to do the ebay thing. He loves to help cook, sort laundry, spray and wipe, sweep, mop - just depends on his mood and usually it's only for a few minutes which I know is typical. I don't know... I guess now that I think about it, when I go off to do these things he follows with a toy in hand, usually a car or random household object. I really should just try to include him more, it's just so hard because he's so extroverted and high energy, and I'm finding with the end of this pregnancy that I've become even more introverted and I don't have the mental stamina to engage in his need for constant interaction. On the flipside though I don't have the energy to wake up with the gung ho he has and get dressed and out the door to play, which when I get us out in fresh air asap after waking up the days flow better.
I think my feelings are stemming from the fact that I have a lot to get done before baby arrives and it involves being home a lot to get these things done. I guess maybe I don't need to set up things differently and just need to find ways to creatively engage him better. It's all coming back to rhythm, which I've totally dropped