I am new to the forum, browse often, but I need a voice today, because I hate my husband today ;)
A round peg in a square hole, this is often how I feel in my house. My husband is irritating & loving, like a teething puppy. I just sometimes want to kill the puppy inside!
It is the annoying and crude, the intentionally annoying, that seems to push me over. Honestly I don’t think it is abusive, I haven’t ever heard of abuse being like this, but could be, not sure. Nothing he does is so he can gain an upper hand, or a power struggle, he can just be down right annoying and doesn’t really stop being annoying until I get so pissed off, that I daily might be teetering on the edge of being the meanie! Most of the time my husband is medicated and that usually resolves the agitation he creates, but not always 100%. It’s funny to him to fart a really, bright orange, pungent odor in our general direction- he does it a LOT. To pick up a child and run around until she is saying ‘daddy, please put me down,’ to have him stop you mid-way, for a hug or just to add a slight irritation, while you run or are going in another direction, just because he fees like it, no mal-intent, just to let you know he’s there, he wants to be involved like a puppy. Nothing is done out of malice. However, I desire a calm, supportive atmosphere, not a wild, loud, crazy home, which it can become very quickly. And it triggers intense anger in me. I don’t think he is funny! He can play so crazily with the kids he broke his toe-on the leg of the bed-playing chase in the bedroom.
I think if I give in and just enjoy life with him and stop being such a stick in the mud, I would enjoy my life much more. But he can take things too far and then I hear a screeching child and I have to yell, “everyone stop, it’s too much.” Why can’t he realize it’s time to stop? Are there any tricks? For me to relax and just chill and/or for me to say to help him know when to chill out?