My last baby was a vbac and I love my midwife and really want her to deliver my next baby, but it all depends on who is on call.  The place where I go has the midwife I want to deliver, a new midwife that I have not met yet and a Dr.  Met the Dr today for the first time and I do not like her.  She is new and seems pretty inexperienced and since I'm a vbac I want experience,  not a new Dr freaking out because she thinks something might not be normal.  I told her basically what I'm looking for, which is to be able to labor on my own, not be put on a  time limit and not feel like someone else is making the decisions.  The 2 labors I have had have been "long" first ended in c/s for distress and my vbac was about 30 hours start to finish, I made very very slow progress.  So she tells me she also believes in no time limit, but then says, well if not much has happened in like 4 hours then we have to think of doing something else, which to me, hearing that coming from a Dr means c/s.  and just her saying that means she does have a time limit, just isn't saying what it is.  Also I'm 28 weeks and she is already asking me if I want an epidural.  My thinking is wtf? why are you asking me that now, I'm not in labor now, so I feel like it's already the beginning of her making this into a super medicalized birth.  I'm not against epidurals, I've had them with both babies, but I decide that I want one when I need one, I dont plan one like 12 weeks ahead of time for no reason.  I feel like if I end up with her delivering, it will be a fight the whole labor.  She also told me that she does c/s and tubal ligations, guessing she added that part in because I already have 2 kids so I should get my tubes tied.  I feel so annoyed by this appt.
I really don't want her to deliver this baby but I don't know who will be on call, makes me want to ask my midwife to induce me on a date that she is on call and take my chances with that not going the way I want rather than taking my chances with this new Dr. Â
