Originally Posted by MusicianDad
Miss Firstname sounds very much like gently scolding/reminding a young female. You know, like "excuse Miss. DD's first name, I do believe you've forgotten to put your dishes in the sink." To me it sounds very awkward coming from a child and directed at a woman.
Ooh, maybe this is part of it for me, too - it just doesn't feel respectful to me at all, it feels demeaning honestly to be called "Miss Firstname", a little condescending. It feels awkward to me whether coming from a child or adult...the only time I ever use miss for my daughter is when she's "in trouble", so that's probaly a big part of it for me.
I guess I could get behind the "pick a convention and stick to it until told otherwise" idea *IF* people were:
a) Straightforward and polite enough to request a change kindly (instead of bluster internally and get offended), and
b) Other people wouldn't take offfense at beign politely requested to change and actually listened to the request.
I don't get the "its too confusing for little kids" thing - I'm actually not putting this on kids at all, but on their parents. It's the adults that usually do the introducing, and the calling for the first several years, so if you go around for a while calling a person by their first name that's what your kid is going to do, too. And if someone else goes by Miss Firstname, they'll get it. Just like my kids got that jumping on the couch at home was okay, but at Nana's was not okay, they both got that before they were 3 years old.
I said that the Miss Firstname thing makes me cringe internally.....which it does - if it's someone I've just met I'll politely say that I prefer just my first name, and the first couple times they forget I'll gently remind them again. I'm not offended by it though, or insulted. And as for being insulted by being asked to call anyone something specific, that's just silly IMO - people should be allowed to be called by whatever name they want without worrying about what social conventions may be the norm in the area they are living.