Originally Posted by laylasmomplus1
I'm sure it depends on the teacher and it sounds like you shouldn't take it from your friend.
Excellent point! I took a HypnoBirthing class during my first pregnancy because there weren't any Hypnobabies instructors in my area at the time and I thought a live class would be better than the Hypnobabies Home Study. Unfortunately, I was wrong, and the HypnoBirthing class I took was very disappointing and I had to spend a great deal of time and money on supplemental materials to accomplish the birth I wanted. That said, I know there are some good classes out there, because some instructors see the shortcomings of the official curriculum and add a great deal to it. The problem with that is, there is no way to tell in advance if you're getting just the regular class, or one from an instructor who has more information and skills to teach. That is why I think there are some potential benefits for some women from taking HypnoBirthing, but I just don't feel comfortable recommending it.
In my case, I experienced unusual complications that could have been at least minimized, if not avoided, if I had recieved even basic natural childbirth information in the HypnoBirthing class. My body needed me to move, and HypnoBirthing had only taught me to remain comfortable while remaining totally limp. I wasn't able to work with my body as I needed to, and it put my baby at risk and nearly earned me a very unwanted c-section. I was extremely lucky to have an excellent caregiver who was patient enough to let things proceed as long as baby and I were safe. I did have a vaginal birth and I did remain comfortable, but it was longer, harder and more dangerous a birth than it needed to be. However, I accomplished that in spite of HypnoBirthing, not because of it. Even in the midst of the birth I told my husband several times, "Next time we're learning Hypnobabies!"
Ironically, despite having a comfortable birth, when I called my HypnoBirthing instructor to tell her about it, her response was, "Wow, do you think you just didn't practice enough to stay relaxed, or what?" She was still completely brainwashed into thinking that relaxation during birth meant 0% chance of complications. Grrrrr.
I did choose to get the Hypnobabies Home Study for my second birth, and LOVED it. It addressed every shortcoming I saw in HypnoBirthing, and gave me so much more than I knew I needed to learn! The skills allowed me to simply get in-tune with my body and baby and move intuitively through my birth in whatever way I needed. Yes, I was completely comfortable, but even if I hadn't been, Hypnobabies did so much to keep me calm and relaxed that I know I could have handled the birth beautifully even if it had been uncomfortable. Learning Hypnobabies made me realize that a "successful" birth didn't mean pain-free, it meant having the knowledge and skills necessary to have the safest, most relaxed and comfortable birth possible under whatever circumstances arose. My Hypnobabies birth was so amazing, despite experiencing complications similar to my first birth - which I handled easily using my Hypnobabies skills and movement, that my husband and midwife talked me into becoming a Hypnobabies Instructor. I've been teaching for over 6 years, and some of my greatest "success" stories involve women who had very complicated and even dangerous births. But they used their skills beautifully to remain relaxed and clear-headed, make good informed decisions, and give birth in the safest way possible - what ever that meant in their situation. There can't be any "blame" on mom for anything, because there is no failure in birth.