My children are 11yo girl, 8yo boy, 6yo boy (I also have a baby girl from the new marriage). Their dad and I split about 6 years ago.
11 months after he moved out he had a baby with his new wife. 2 more babies followed. She brought three children of her own to the marriage. So my children, aside from each other and my daughter, have:
13yo stepsister and 10yo stepsister, Best friends and age peers of my oldest.
7yo stepbrother, best friend and age peer of my boys.
4yo, 3yo, and 1yo "half" siblings.
My kids are proud of their large family and love the camaraderie they find at their dad's. They identify as members of a big family. They love their stepmother, though their relationship with their dad is a bit rocky. This has been their life, since they were 5, 3, and 1 year old.
Their stepmother moved out this weekend, taking the 6 kids with her who aren't my kids. I have not talked with my children about this; they're at their dad's until Friday.
Can anyone help me best support them as they move through this? It is, of course, possible that dad and stepmom will work out their differences, but dad is not a warm and fuzzy kind of guy; he's a reasonable father but not a skilled parent, and as they are not close emotionally, I'm just worried about them alone with him in what is a very different home than they know and love (they're used to the hustle and chaos and fun of a large family).