First off Big ((hugs)) I totally understand your sadness and frustration. I have 4 kids and NO money this year as well.
So far my plan is to make Christmas about everything but gifts this year. I will save every penny I can find to buy food for our feast.
Next Christmas starts on the first I plan to do some Holiday activity everyday of Dec, we will make chains, ornaments, cookies, and cards. We will have hot cocoa and go see the town lights one night read special stories.