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Does the OP want to share what ended up happening and how the relationship has been since?
Sure. I posted some above about our discussion (during which I was calm, cool & collected thanks to the advice I got here!). But things have been on the up & up since. For myself, I pinpointed my anger/disappointment as rooted in the no-notice she provided the morning she said she'd be in. So I let my anger go & just focused on discussing this with her, once when I saw her next & then when we reached 1 month & had a mini review/check-in (in which I tried to focus on positive stuff as well).
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She was really sick (strep throat) which doesn't really change my approach but is more of a reality check for me in terms of not immediately jumping to conclusions. And I've decided to put more faith into our back-up care system because the other family really was willing to jump in to help make things work.
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I started another thread because my son's adjustment to the new nanny was a bit bumpy in the mornings (maybe picking up on my bad vibes?) and I was doubting all over again, but since then I've really seen her open up with him & he is (usually) excited to see her. Plus she's stepped in to help out during a really stressful & busy time for me. So I think it was a case of really still being in a phase of adjustment & learning how to work & communicate with each other.
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Thanks!
Yay!! That's awesome. Thanks for sharing!
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