Wow, I'm so glad I have never had to deal with this kind of discussion .
As a European I have been shocked again and again by this practice. Needless to say neither of my two sons (22 yo and 4 yo) is circumcised, and obviously neither has had any problems or worries with their foreskins. The same goes for everybody I know. I don't know a single person who would even vaguely consider doing this to their child, and I have never heard anybody mentioning any foreskin problems, UTIs in boys (they are really rare, you know!), or any hygiene worries. It is a non-issue. We don't even "wipe like a finger". The only cleaning that happens with my 4 yo's penis, is that he sits in the bath with it every two or three days. This was also true when he used diapers, except when he got poo everywhere. (But I am assuming that the idea of not even washing the penis might sound extreme to people who are used to the thought that the foreskin is unhygienic, and that the least one should do is to retract it and clean underneath it, so perhaps it is better to stick with the "wipe as a finger" idea to not sound completely crazy and lose prospective non-circumcisers that way...? )
I'm sorry, but I think the "idealistic" argument that no one but the owner of the penis has the "right" to decide, is a bit construed. Why isn't it a good enough reason that circumcision is a painful, horrible, unnecessary procedure done against a small defenceless child? It is no better than torture. Plus it can potentially kill the baby, or do lasting damage. What other reasons do you need?
I am wondering whether a person who can think it is ok to strap a baby down and cut their most sensitive part without sufficient anastheisa, has actually ever experienced any real pain that they can remember. If they do understand what it is like to feel horrible pain that you can't escape from, and they still want to do it, I have no words that can describe how cruel I think this is.
It is illegal in my culture to slap, pinch, pull hair, or do anything else that causes unnecessary pain to your child. And to think that the US, which believes itself to be among the most civilised and advanced countries in the world, performs this kind of torture on newborn babies! Look at which other countries have a high circumcision rate. They are not the kind of developed countries that the US thinks it is similar to. But, actually, many of those other countries have the excuse that they have a population that is less educated, poor, misinformed, etc. The US has no excuse, you have access to all the information in the world.
You moms have the responsibility for protecting your babies. It doesn't do to leave the decision to anybody else, including your husbands. Since you are the one who knows that circumcision is painful, pointless, and wrong, it is your responsibility to make sure it doesn't happen to your baby. In the case of circumcision there is actually one side that is right and one that is wrong. It is not possible to compromise.
Just say no.
Sorry if I'm being harsh, but this is how crazy routine circumcision is from a European point of view.