I am so sorry for your loss......it's a reminder to me that our children are precious and we need to cherish them every minute.
How am I supposed to live without my daughter? - Page 3
Oh mama, I have been thinking about you every day since you posted this. I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your precious daughter. I hope that you find the strength to make it through these first few painful months for your family. You will remain in my thoughts - please take care of yourself, and please reach out any time you need to. There are a lot of us here that have lost children, and I know my loss was absolutely nothing like your's, but if you ever need to talk to someone who sort of gets the deep dark emotions that go along with it, feel free to pm. The pregnancy and birth loss forum here also serves as a place of comfort and understanding for mamas who have lost older children. Much love to you.
Oh, how devastating. My heart aches to hear your pain. Losing a child has to be the worst thing to go through. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please surround yourself with support, even if it's just to care for your other children.
There are homeopathic remedies that can ease this tremendous trauma from your heart and make it much more bearable. I can help you if you PM me. I'm certified!
Be gentle with yourself. Guilt is poison to the soul. She was so loved and still is and that is the reason we are all here. You were a great mama to her! Tragedy doesn't somehow negate that you have loved her like only a mother could! Big huge hugs to you. I will keep you in my thoughts.
The way you are feeling is completely normal. It is normal to feel guilty. It is normal to feel like you cannot go on. It is normal for you to feel like you don't deserve your boys.
But you are not to blame. It is hard, I know, to feel like it isn't your fault. But it's not.
As a parent you would rather chop your own arm off than see any harm come to our kids.
But tragedies happen. And we always look back and think maybe.
It is long road to walk the loss of child. I am so sorry you have to walk it. All I can say is that I am so sorry for you and your family. If you ever wish to talk don't hesitate.
When you are ready there is support out there.
Words cannot express how I felt reading about your awful loss. My deepest sympathy to you and your family. Please be gentle with yourself. It could have happened to any of us. After reading your story, I took down the mini blinds and roman shades in my house. I discovered that two roman shades in my daughters room and one in her bathroom were specifically recalled by IKEA due to a baby strangling in the center cord (which I did not even know was a hazard. I knew about the side cord, but never considered all the other hazards). I have put my daughter and son down for naps in a room with mini blind cords. It could have been me. I have since learned that there is no way to babyproof a corded mini blind and there are cordless inexpensive solutions. It is beyond tragic that you have experienced this. I am grateful to you for sharing your story as it may help others protect their little ones. Your daughter's life was not in vain. RIP sweet angel.
I read your post hours ago and bawled me eyes out. My heart and soul ache for your family right now. I don't think there is anything that anyone can say to take your pain away, but we all wish that we could! I agree with pp that said you beautiful little girl knows that you love her and that you would have done anything in your power to keep her safe. This is just such a tragic accident that is so fresh right now. I know that time will help heal, but please be talking to your husband, your family, your friends, a support group, even a professional, about how you're feeling. You need support to help you get through this. You are so young----you don't deserve to live the rest of your life feeling like this.
Please know that you are in my prayers.....Sending so much love your way tonight.
this was me too. i just couldn't post because i was crying so hard.
i wish i could do something to help you. gentleness and hugs to you mama.
Oh mama I am so very sorry for your loss I cannot possibly grasp what you're going through right now. The best advice I can give, though, is to allow yourself the space to grieve...that is of the utmost importance. You may not feel you deserve it, but it's the only way to move forward and be able to care for your sons and yourself. Do what you need to do to give yourself the space to cry and rage and process everything that's happened. I've experienced intense trauma in my life and that was the only thing that saved me...the space to grieve. Help from others is very beneficial, too, of course, but if we don't curl up in a ball and let it pour out of us then we'll always be stuck. My thoughts and prayers are with you