My MIL watches two girls age 2 and 7. I've had a run in with the 7 yo before. It was when they came to my DH's birthday (without me knowing they were coming). I find the 7 yo to be extremely rude and demanding especially for her age. I know her mother isn't around. I know she gets passed from one person to another and that my MIL is her only stability. I'm trying to have grace with the whole situation.
My MIL asked if she could bring the girls over. I said okay only based on the fact that she doesn't get to see her own grandchildren very often.
The day starts out with them arriving 2 1/2 hours late. Not the small girls problem but it set the stage for me to be frustrated.
It also turned out to be a BEAUTIFUL fall day and since the 2 girls visiting didn't have coats we were stuck inside. I wasn't feeling too bad about that until the 7 year old started demanding to watch tv. We don't have tv: we have movies. This perplexed her and then my 5 year old DD excitedly told her about a new movie we have. 7 yo didn't want that and demanding another movie we have. DS started crying because he didn't want to see it. I got my MIL involved because I just couldn't deal with it at that point.
The movie was put on. We don't watch movies in the day here, especially when it's a beautiful sunny day. I was dealing with it until the 7 year old asked repeatedly for the sound to be turned up because I was reading to my children who weren't watching the movie. One thing I will not do is have loud tv's.
I POed my MIL and SIL by telling off the 7 year old. I told her she was at my house and that tv is a privilege not a right here. I told her the sound WILL not be turned up and I expect politeness and that coming over to my house to watch tv instead of playing is actually not acceptable when she was brought over to play. I did not yell this.
At this point everyone was looking at me like a was a total B**** and they left. MY MIL invited the 7 y.o to take the movie home. Let me tell you, it took EVERY ounce not to come unglued.
Now they are gone and I'm a super grump monster to my own children. They don't deserve it: they did nothing wrong except want to see their Grandmother.
Thank you for letting me vent.