I'm leaving him in 2 weeks

[ihugtrees]

After 1.5 years of struggling to save my marriage (while he put in very little to no effort) I have finally made a plan. My nanny family is moving about 2 hours away in 2 weeks, and I'm going with them.

Now that I have this plan in place, DH says he wants to work on our marriage, but I've told him that if he wants to work on our marriage, he can come visit me every weekend and work on our marriage that way...but I can't continue to plan my life around him anymore! 

I LOVE the family I work for and it is a very secure job, so I know this is the right choice for my daughter and I. DH can see DD as often as he wants to come visit, and I will bring her to him sometimes too. 

So I guess I'm going to officially be a single, full time working mom soon. It is terrifying, but also exciting!

[doubledutch]

  congratulations on your plans - good luck!

[bananabee]

:hug Glad you have a plan. Stick to your guns. You're right - if he really wants to work on it, he will make the effort.

[jess_paez]

good for you girl! :)

[One_Girl]

It is good to have a plan.  I am not sure on this, but moving the child away from him may look really bad and he can probably get a court order to stop you if he decides to.  If you can get in contact with a lawyer to figure out what you need to do to make your move work without a mess I think you should do it.

[Halfasianmomma]

Have you consulted a lawyer about your plan? Maybe it would be a good idea...just to be sure you've got your bases covered. Usually, the parent who moves away is responsible for travel expenses. 

Aside from that, I think your plan of moving away with your nanny family sounds great.

[justmama]

yeah I would consult a lawyer if you have the finances to do so.  Just to cover yourself.  And get it in writing from him that he knows of the new location his daughter will be at.  Make sure to save emails as well.  You dont' want him to be able to come back and say that you just up and left and arent' giving him access to his child.  Even though I had a legal order granting me sole legal and physical custody of my daughter with supervised visitation to her father, I made sure to get a note signed by her father and I that he was aware of our move on X date to X location.  And every single time we have moved since, I make sure to call him and inform him of the new address and any new phone numbers he needs and document the call.  It's just to cover my behind in case he ever decides to take me to court, which is unlikely given that he's chosen not to see her for almost 9 years.  But you never know.  You HAVE to protect yourself.