Mods, feel free to move... not sure where this goes.
Two questions here. What do you want for your kids? Happiness? Wealth? Comfort? Love? Freedom? Inner Peace? A Meaningful Existence? (I mean, what are the big ones, say, one, two or three things max that you would say, are the most important things in life.)
And how do you think they will get there? Modeling? Achievement? Struggle? Luck? GD? ;)
I can appreciate that some posters will inevitably say, "What they want for themselves, how they want to achieve it."
But assuming that they are looking to you for guidance on what is important in life, and how to get there, I think there is room for at least knowing what we *think* will be best for them, in broad terms, at least. I know I for one do not want to be the mom that keeps harping on one or another of my pet values once my children are grown and have already expressed their own values. But while their little brains are all soft and mushy, yes, I do want to mold them a bit.