I think after 8 weeks of pain, I'd see someone. I had a UP/car birth in hospital parking lot/ and NO pp check up at all. But, I didn't have any pain or problems or stitches. I had no epi, but I did have the pit (after the birth), IV fluids, and antibiotics. I was DTD at 4 days PP (weird time emotionally) and everything is fine. I think you should go see someone. It doesn't have to be an OB - I have a nurse practitioner in my town that I see for everything.
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Good luck mama - this must be so nerve wracking. I hope you can get it figured out soon, and I really hope its something that will resolve itself. But, still, I'd see someone, I think, since you can't insert a finger. That's the part that worries me, not so much the DTD stuff - a lot of women have problems with that after birth even with no stitches or tears or anything.