OK, honestly, it was embarrassing but that isn't what worries me....
Today, dd's class was doing a little performance in their classroom. Afterward they had muffins that the class had made for the parents and the students to eat. They also had some bottled water. So ds, during the performance sat in the chair next to me. He was very well behaved, no talking or even fidgeting. Then everyone was getting up to go get muffins and water. He decided while he just wanted water, no big deal. The group was fairly small, maybe 30 or so people total, but ds took his water to a corner and wouldn't move out of the corner. No big deal again, I mean organized chaos is still chaos, so maybe he didn't like it. At this point his sister was sitting next to her friend and she called ds over, so he walked over and as soon as he got there dd's friend said "hi". Now mind you, ds is now standing in the only area between a table and the chairs for people to walk through. She says "hi", he immediately drops to the floor curls up into a ball and won't move. I had to push past people who were just trying to walk through to get to him. He wouldn't move, he just stayed there. By the time I got over there dd's teacher was trying to get him to get up and move, and ended up basically standing over him so that he didn't get run over. I get over there, and she does this whole tsk tsk type thing and gives me this look that I don't want to interpret as bad, but it wasn't a "aww how cute" look either. It was almost just a "what in the world is he doing" look. I mumbled something about him not liking strangers and picked him up to get him out of the way.
So, I am concerned that if that (literally 30 minutes) amount of time around people makes him curl up and shut down, what in the world is he going to do next fall when he starts school? Should I be finding him playgroups, or maybe go ahead and put him in preschool? What would you do? I mean I couldn't really apologize to the teacher for his behavior because getting him out of the way was the priority, but should I apologize to her?
Just so you know, he's the only one of my kids that is ever quiet, so this is just strange for me. DD is embarrassing because it is just her constant state of being. She talks about inappropriate things, hugs people that don't want hugs, but she is clueless about it. She has Asperger's and just really doesn't take cues from people's expressions. DS (13 yr.) is a sarcastic class clown, and ds (9 yrs. old) loves talking as long as it is about a topic he likes. So my kids are quite social, except this one. I really have no clue how to react. Most days that I take him out I spend half my time saying, "sorry, he doesn't like strangers" "he's shy" "don't take offense he doesn't talk to anyone he doesn't know" etc etc etc etc etc. He is a cutey with big blue eyes, so we often get comments like, "wow what beautiful eyes" at which point he quickly hides behind me, unless I'm in a long skirt at which point he has literally crawled under my skirt to hide.
So, what would you do to get him ready for a classroom setting? Oh and should I go out of my way to apologize for his behavior to the teacher?