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post #21 of 24

Thought about it some more. . . my suggestions came from the need to fix stressors.  Give yourself permission to take a deep breathe and say to yourself "what do I wish was different?"  Then ask someone to help you change that thing.  No stress is too small!  This works even in labor.  If you can say "too loud", "too bright", "back hurts" then someone can work to help you.  The same thing once the baby has arrived.  Let your support team know in advance that you aren't mad at them, you're not blaming them but when things need to change you will need their help.  Whatever it takes, ASK.  Most people are simply dying to help/ be supportive but if you don't let them know they'll be afraid of stepping on your toes.

post #22 of 24

DO NOT be afraid to hold your baby as much as you want...don't feel like you HAVE to share! My MIL was terrible about hogging DD....it got to the point when I didn't want to give her up for even a minute, because I knew it would be a while before I got her back. It's your baby and you need to bond...don't be afraid to stand up for yourself. 

post #23 of 24

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I wish we could pin this thread!

post #24 of 24

Crashing.... *guilt*

 

Be prepared to experience a whole new level of love! I only understood a tiny sliver of what love was until I had my babies.

 

On the same note-births are like weddings and each one usually has a "flaw" or "hitch" flowers are the wrong kind, cake came late, dress got a spot on it, it rained etc...be open minded enough for your birth and postpartum to not be "perfect" and that's okay. 

 

Give your partner and yourself gratitude for all your hard work. Validate your feelings regardless of what they are. Love yourself and take it easy, there are huge emotional ups and downs in the first two weeks. Questioning your sanity and emotional state is NORMAL!

 

Spend time just breathing.

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